What's working, though slowly, for me...
I've lost 32 pounds in a little over a year. I haven't really changed what I eat (though I do feel that I've had less appetite). I love chocolate and I eat one candy bar a day.
I've changed how much I move. We have two homes and I split my time between them. Beginning last Fall, when in NC, I work out three days a week...mostly weight training to strenghten my back...just twenty minutes on a treadmill. I don't like it but I make myself go because I hired a trainer, pay in advance and know he's made a trip to the gym to train me. Otherwise, I'd make excuses. When in SC, I walk, walk, walk. Not fast, not telling myself it's to lose weight, just long walks around Charleston...to get a skinny Starbucks latte, the newspaper, shopping, looking, etc.
It's frustrating to go back to NC, work out three days, and still gain a pound or two back that I lost while in SC... then go back to SC and though eating at restaurants and thus eating bread ,desserts, etc.,that I wouldn't in NC, I still lose more pounds than in NC. It's got to be the walking there! I've only managed to get ahead by three pounds in the past two months but I really don't care as long as I don't gain back beyond a weight I've set as not acceptable for me again. Losing more would be great too! And I know you'll think/say that if I'd just drop the candy bar, the bread and desserts in restaurants, walk in NC, etc., I could lose more and you'd be right. But I know me. If I deny myself too much, if I tell myself that I'm on a diet...that there are things I can not have...if I set up a menu, well, it's over because my mind becomes constantly focused on food, food, food and also because,well, I'm just rebellious and that's a sure way for me to sabatoge myself. Diets have never worked for me long term. I've lost lots of pounds over the years but usually just to put them back on plus more. This seems to be working for me long term.