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Fear is what drives many people from doing things and not doing things. What is the worst thing that can happen if a mistake is made? you just create a new plan. From what I read you thought it out financially and emotionally.sorry, folks, I seem to be on the shrink's couch this morning, but, dang, this is soooo therapeutic! partly why I am moving to camp and a barn, it will be so good for me, body, mind and spirit.
I think that I am simply much more of a free spirit than either my brother or sister. It's like they decide what is best for me, whether I like it or not! It's very strange, as they haven't been much involved in my adult life, so oversteps are extra offensive to me. gee, get to know me, why don't you??
I'm not sure it's fear, I think for them it is strong adherence to some traditional ways and how dare I step outside that (sis told me that my decision to not have children was 'going against society', in case that sheds light). She also has never stopped telling me she hates my house and I should move down to live near her (no, that is not ever happening, never). She seems to have always wanted to get control of me. I don't get it.
She will travel 1200 miles to "help" her 30ish oldest son look for apartments, so, it's not just me she tries to grab the wheel from. I am absolutely certain that he is capable of finding his own place to live and knows what he wants, and where. I guess she's like Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond. Smarmy, nasty tone delivered in, of course I'm right and you are wrong...
She also continues to harp on her youngest, her only daughter, about giving her grandkids. every time she does that in front of me, I ask why she isn't hounding her oldest kid about that. Nope, just the girl... I guess she fears another female "going against society..." ??? Her daughter, in fact, does not want kids. Maybe she fears her kid turning out like Aunt Geekette! oh, the horrors! A woman doing the career thing and getting her own financial independence on her own terms, finding her own happiness vs the time worn plan in sis' pocket. Shout out for dear Amy. Go, Girl, Go!
They are unable to stop this train! At whatever point I tell them, I'll be quite far into this. My brother has his mail delivered here, so it wouldn't be cool to vacate completely without telling him. I remain a non-jerk no matter how much jerky crap they pull on me. I am not interested in anything they have to say about it, I will have my answers to their inevitable questions ready to go. I expect ridicule and sarcasm from them and won't be taking the bait. My mother, I'm not sure, I think her gut feel will be happiness for me, tinged with a little fear. For her, I will take pictures and print them to send her big Proof that I'm ok.
Those who support you are wonderful, those who don’t you planned already not to take the bait as I have. I just cut the conversation short. If I keep hearing , be careful, your rushing, where you are going there are only very old men, maybe you should stay it’s not so bad with him, etc. etc, etc., my niceness and patience can run its course. I actually told a family member today if you cannot support me please say nothing as it doesn’t help and won’t change my mind.