I also had a reservation at Ocean Pointe recently and gave them my bonvoy number at check in (and verified at checkout). No issues with points on incidentals, and a 500 point bonus at check in (which i also got at Lakeshore earlier).
I have never received nights credits, and it makes sense to me i don't get them. Would be nice for Abound owners if they do, but it would make sense i did not. I only ever expected the points on incidentals at the resort.
I did originally call SVR after check out and they said they cannot do anything once checkout has occured. So again, i would verify they have your bonvoy number on a reservation before you check out - especially if you are not an Abound owner.
I am a Hyatt owner, and have never had issues getting WOH points for incidentals if I forgot to give them my WOH info before checkout. On the other hand, the Marriott rep basically threatened me with an audit.