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@Cornell, thanks for opening this new thread of discussion. I think @heathpack said it quite well: the impact of this insidious virus is unevenly felt by different strands of our society. Some of us have been able to continue working straight through while others have lost their jobs and have no idea when they will even be able to look for another job; some are retired and financially secure while others are raising young families with a mortgage to pay and wondering what the future holds; some of us live in rural places and can easily "spread out", making social distancing rather easy, while others live jam-packed in apartment buildings with hundreds of other people. So we don't all face the same impacts from this thing--that's for sure. With regard to the impact on children--whether very small or teenaged children--it's a real tragedy. All of the constructs that they had--their classroom and teacher(s), seeing their friends everyday, playing together or participating in spring sports, participating in spring prom--all of those things are suddenly gone, with not even the chance to have slowly eased them into their new reality. For those parents dealing with this, it's hard because our children and grandchildren have so many questions that often don't have good, clean answers, and often the questions only lead to more questions.
My oldest son has a 6-year-old daughter. Noticing how much she misses being with her friends at school, he and his wife decided to take matters into their own hands in a creative way: they baked cookies with their daughter, encouraged her to draw pictures of her favorite things to do with her friends when they were together, and bought Reese's Peanut Butter Eggs at Rite Aid. They put all of these, along with a homemade card, into about ten different baskets that they made with construction paper and then went around to the homes of each of her friends. She ran up to the front door, rang the doorbell, and then ran back to the car. Then she watched to see if the door would open. Most did, because most of her friends were home. She waved to them and watched them pick up the basket and told them to read the card. The card said, "I miss you. I hope you like the goodies. Let's meet on Zoom at 2:00 pm." Then my son set up a Zoom party for his daughter and her friends. They loved seeing each other, talking about the baskets, eating cookies while they talked and laughed. It was a bright light in the midst of the clouds.
By contrast, we learned last week of the tragic loss of two teenage girls in our small town. All we knew is that they were found by the river, which led, of course, to all kinds of speculation. Drowned? Kidnapped and raped? What could have happened? This week, the truth emerged: they each shot themselves. They left notes for their parents explaining that they could not handle the isolation and saw no reason for hope because there was no telling how long it would be before they would get their old lives back. It was just easier to end it all. How utterly tragic.
In other posts on this board, I have stressed that we cannot afford to look constantly inward during these uncertain times. When we choose to look outward and upward, we actually do much more for ourselves when we give ourselves away to others. They are blessed, and we are blessed by their gratitude. It gives us a positive sense of purpose and shields us from fear because we are focused on something other than ourselves. I hope this doesn't come across as "preachy". I certainly don't mean it that way. But, speaking for myself, this has been the perfect prescription for what ails all of us as we struggle through this historic and much different reality we all are dealing with.
My oldest son has a 6-year-old daughter. Noticing how much she misses being with her friends at school, he and his wife decided to take matters into their own hands in a creative way: they baked cookies with their daughter, encouraged her to draw pictures of her favorite things to do with her friends when they were together, and bought Reese's Peanut Butter Eggs at Rite Aid. They put all of these, along with a homemade card, into about ten different baskets that they made with construction paper and then went around to the homes of each of her friends. She ran up to the front door, rang the doorbell, and then ran back to the car. Then she watched to see if the door would open. Most did, because most of her friends were home. She waved to them and watched them pick up the basket and told them to read the card. The card said, "I miss you. I hope you like the goodies. Let's meet on Zoom at 2:00 pm." Then my son set up a Zoom party for his daughter and her friends. They loved seeing each other, talking about the baskets, eating cookies while they talked and laughed. It was a bright light in the midst of the clouds.
By contrast, we learned last week of the tragic loss of two teenage girls in our small town. All we knew is that they were found by the river, which led, of course, to all kinds of speculation. Drowned? Kidnapped and raped? What could have happened? This week, the truth emerged: they each shot themselves. They left notes for their parents explaining that they could not handle the isolation and saw no reason for hope because there was no telling how long it would be before they would get their old lives back. It was just easier to end it all. How utterly tragic.
In other posts on this board, I have stressed that we cannot afford to look constantly inward during these uncertain times. When we choose to look outward and upward, we actually do much more for ourselves when we give ourselves away to others. They are blessed, and we are blessed by their gratitude. It gives us a positive sense of purpose and shields us from fear because we are focused on something other than ourselves. I hope this doesn't come across as "preachy". I certainly don't mean it that way. But, speaking for myself, this has been the perfect prescription for what ails all of us as we struggle through this historic and much different reality we all are dealing with.