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Thanks all for making me feel better! I felt I was being a bit petty about this (still do in a way), but it was nice to see others felt the same way. :)

I play a little golf, but it's not the main reason why we are all here. My BIL fancies himself a "real" golfer, so he's trying to get in as many rounds as possible. I've decided to let him out on his own when I don't want to play and hang with the rest of the family. Not feeling guilty.

jme: it was nice to hear we think alike. I, too, had a hard time deciding whether to post or not. :)

Thanks to all of your responses, I can now ignore the comments and still have a good time on the course with him today. A couple of beers while playing will help too!

Cheers!
 
Here's one perspective. If he's indeed a "real" golfer, he may not like the course. There are a lot of very beautiful, well maintained golf courses that really aren't all that great to play. Even more so for courses affiliated with resorts. These courses tend to be overly forgiving in order to insure that everyone has a good time on vacation. Golfers who want more of a challenge may prefer to play elsewhere.

Having said that, even if this is the case here, it's just one round and it's still golf. How bad could it be? You'd think he could be more accommodating.
 
I'd say, go ahead and drive there (in your own rental car) and I'll get thrown into a foursome here. Oh, and I'll be sipping on some cocktails in the pool while you're driving back here. Have fun.
 
Our highly effective dispute solution to what golf course, bar, fishing area and anything else that matter to the men are a coin flip or rock,paper, scissors.
This doesn't work with the women in our group who have their own way of deciding that I still don't understand.
 
Sea Six said:
If he wants to drive 4 hours, there's a course down here that's only $20.
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too funny.
also, if he wants, he can drive up to Augusta, Ga and i'll treat him to a great round of golf at Augusta Country Club, just adjacent to the Augusta National.

And i would also arrange that you would never see him again......:D
 
I have played Grande Pines once----it wasn't suited to my strengths/WEAKNESSES. When I go in March, I am not sure I will play it or not.

Do you know what course he wants to play---if you do re-post----I may have played it.

I, too, try to find reasonable rates, but driving an hour to save $11 is something I wouldn't jump at---unless I wanted to see that particular area for other reasons.

Pat
 
The golf course and the golf club house onsite are top notch.
 
I Survived!

We played 18 at Grande Vista. BIL was placated by the fact the greens fees were $35/person for 18. It was a pleasant surprise. The reservation lady quoted $61, the web site said $35 for 9, and the pro shop charged $35 for 18. Fine by me.

In any case, BIL kept his mouth shut about the fees, but did keep pointing out it was an "executive" course. This coming from a man who has never broken 90 and barely breaks 100. At least he did, for the most part, refrain from giving me pointers while playing. I put my foot down about that a few years ago. ;)

He is contemplating attending a presentation in order to get 2 rounds for $30 at Grande Pines. Looks like I may get revenge for having to listen to his "concerns". :p

Cheers!
 
NWL said:
We played 18 at Grande Vista. BIL was placated by the fact the greens fees were $35/person for 18. It was a pleasant surprise. The reservation lady quoted $61, the web site said $35 for 9, and the pro shop charged $35 for 18. Fine by me.

In any case, BIL kept his mouth shut about the fees, but did keep pointing out it was an "executive" course. This coming from a man who has never broken 90 and barely breaks 100. At least he did, for the most part, refrain from giving me pointers while playing. I put my foot down about that a few years ago. ;)

He is contemplating attending a presentation in order to get 2 rounds for $30 at Grande Pines. Looks like I may get revenge for having to listen to his "concerns". :p

Cheers!
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CHEERS back to you!!!!

wow...encourage him to buy something, then you can tag along on his next few trips. Should be an eye-opening experience for HIM.
 
easyrider said:
Our highly effective dispute solution to what golf course, bar, fishing area and anything else that matter to the men are a coin flip or rock,paper, scissors.
This doesn't work with the women in our group who have their own way of deciding that I still don't understand.
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Figuring out all the options, determining the pros and cons of each one, evaluating the relative strengths of each pro and con, and using a complex (and secret) formula that is deeply imbedded in the female brain. It's closely related to logic, though it may not seem that way to those who don't understand it.

I think the reason for the difference is that the guys don't really care so a coin toss is fine, and to the women it's a more important decision so they need to make sure to evaluate every possible combination and permutation.
:hi:
 
My BIL is a cheapskate, too. We went to a course where the first hole was over water, so I grabbed an old ball, and unfortunately hit it in the lake. So I told my BIL to lend me a ball, and he tossed me the one he was going to hit, and sadly, I put that in the lake too. I told him, toss me another, and he reached in his pocket and gave me a ball. It just wasn't my day, and that one went in the lake. I told him I needed another ball, and he reaches in his bag for ball, and gives me a heavy sigh with it. Well, that upset me, so I hit that in the lake too.

I said, hey, toss me another, and he gets all upset and says, Hey man, I've given you three balls and you put them all in the lake! Those were brand new Pro V's and they cost me $4 each!

I told him, look, pal, if you can't afford the game, give it up.

I guess he did because he hasn't asked me to play since.
 
$4 Per Ball????

wow. I can't say much about anyone's BIL as I am clearly WAAAAY TOOOOO Cheeeeeeeeep to play golf.

$4 a ball .... wow.

At that price, you'd think they'd float ;; )
 
K&PFitz said:
My BIL is a cheapskate, too. We went to a course where the first hole was over water, so I grabbed an old ball, and unfortunately hit it in the lake. So I told my BIL to lend me a ball, and he tossed me the one he was going to hit, and sadly, I put that in the lake too. I told him, toss me another, and he reached in his pocket and gave me a ball. It just wasn't my day, and that one went in the lake. I told him I needed another ball, and he reaches in his bag for ball, and gives me a heavy sigh with it. Well, that upset me, so I hit that in the lake too.

I said, hey, toss me another, and he gets all upset and says, Hey man, I've given you three balls and you put them all in the lake! Those were brand new Pro V's and they cost me $4 each!

I told him, look, pal, if you can't afford the game, give it up.

I guess he did because he hasn't asked me to play since.
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Imagine that? :doh:
 
K&PFitz said:
My BIL is a cheapskate, too. We went to a course where the first hole was over water, so I grabbed an old ball, and unfortunately hit it in the lake. So I told my BIL to lend me a ball, and he tossed me the one he was going to hit, and sadly, I put that in the lake too. I told him, toss me another, and he reached in his pocket and gave me a ball. It just wasn't my day, and that one went in the lake. I told him I needed another ball, and he reaches in his bag for ball, and gives me a heavy sigh with it. Well, that upset me, so I hit that in the lake too.

I said, hey, toss me another, and he gets all upset and says, Hey man, I've given you three balls and you put them all in the lake! Those were brand new Pro V's and they cost me $4 each!

I told him, look, pal, if you can't afford the game, give it up.

I guess he did because he hasn't asked me to play since.
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I'm sorry if it's dumb question but, why didn't you have extra balls of your own to use?

I'm a new golfer and I would gladly toss my golf buddy a couple of balls, but after the second I wouldn't sigh - I would ask where are your balls? I'll grab you one. And I am certainly not a cheapskate. But I'm not financially able to pay for my golf supplies as well as hers!

Maybe I don't have enough facts to understand. Is this normal to expect the other player to supply balls when you lose yours? I was told to always have at least one extra ball in my pocket (I always have 2). Now if your BIL was playing for free that may change my opinion on the situation...
 
sstug

OF COURSE he had his own balls !!! :D BUT, he didn't want to lose all of his in the lake. :wall: So, it makes perfect sense to use other people's balls. OR, am I missing something???:rofl:

Tony
 
I'm really thinking that the golf ball story was a joke. I sure got a good laugh out of it. May have to try and remember to tell that story myself... :)
 
K&PFitz said:
My BIL is a cheapskate, too. We went to a course where the first hole was over water, so I grabbed an old ball, and unfortunately hit it in the lake. So I told my BIL to lend me a ball, and he tossed me the one he was going to hit, and sadly, I put that in the lake too. I told him, toss me another, and he reached in his pocket and gave me a ball. It just wasn't my day, and that one went in the lake. I told him I needed another ball, and he reaches in his bag for ball, and gives me a heavy sigh with it. Well, that upset me, so I hit that in the lake too.

I said, hey, toss me another, and he gets all upset and says, Hey man, I've given you three balls and you put them all in the lake! Those were brand new Pro V's and they cost me $4 each!

I told him, look, pal, if you can't afford the game, give it up.

I guess he did because he hasn't asked me to play since.
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Sounds like you're the one who's the cheapskate. If you'd had paid for a sleeve of Pro V1's and proceeded to hit them all in the water, you'd be sick with yourself, but at least they'd have been your Pro V1's.

But after hitting someone else's into the water... well, you should have done a mea culpa, dug into your own pocket and given him $12. If you're going to lose balls off the tee, lose your own. BTW, you're BIL wasn't a cheapskate. Quite to the contrary, in this situation, he was generous to a fault.
 
easyrider said:
Our highly effective dispute solution to what golf course, bar, fishing area and anything else that matter to the men are a coin flip or rock ,paper, scissors.
This doesn't work with the women in our group who have their own way of deciding that I still don't understand.
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Ha! You took the words right out of my husband's mouth!
 
ace2000 said:
I'm really thinking that the golf ball story was a joke. I sure got a good laugh out of it. May have to try and remember to tell that story myself... :)
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Ya leaning towards it was a joke also :)
 
pjrose said:
Figuring out all the options, determining the pros and cons of each one, evaluating the relative strengths of each pro and con, and using a complex (and secret) formula that is deeply imbedded in the female brain. It's closely related to logic, though it may not seem that way to those who don't understand it.

I think the reason for the difference is that the guys don't really care so a coin toss is fine, and to the women it's a more important decision so they need to make sure to evaluate every possible combination and permutation.
:hi:
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In our case, it's the exact opposite. BIL is paragraph #1 and I'm the first part of paragraph #2. I know I don't conform to the norm and it never bothers me, but it would kill BIL to know he's behaving like a woman. :)

Cheers!
 
Standard joke on the course is when you are behind really slow players (usually men) who are taking up alot of time looking for their ball in the woods or water, etc. We just drive up and hand them $5 and ask them to move on lol!!! My SIL who has alot of money uses range balls (big no no in golf) to hit over water. :rofl:
 
pjrose said:
Figuring out all the options, determining the pros and cons of each one, evaluating the relative strengths of each pro and con, and using a complex (and secret) formula that is deeply imbedded in the female brain. It's closely related to logic, though it may not seem that way to those who don't understand it.

I think the reason for the difference is that the guys don't really care so a coin toss is fine, and to the women it's a more important decision so they need to make sure to evaluate every possible combination and permutation.
:hi:
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Where is that Like! button when you need it?
 
K&PFitz said:
My BIL is a cheapskate, too. We went to a course where the first hole was over water, so I grabbed an old ball, and unfortunately hit it in the lake. So I told my BIL to lend me a ball, and he tossed me the one he was going to hit, and sadly, I put that in the lake too. I told him, toss me another, and he reached in his pocket and gave me a ball. It just wasn't my day, and that one went in the lake. I told him I needed another ball, and he reaches in his bag for ball, and gives me a heavy sigh with it. Well, that upset me, so I hit that in the lake too.

I said, hey, toss me another, and he gets all upset and says, Hey man, I've given you three balls and you put them all in the lake! Those were brand new Pro V's and they cost me $4 each!

I told him, look, pal, if you can't afford the game, give it up.

I guess he did because he hasn't asked me to play since.
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Lol! Sent that one to my husband!
 
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