Yes. You don't. Being designed to HOLD the weight without exploding =/= somehow avoiding the extra friction caused by the weight.
I'm sorry I told you about the actual experience of someone who HAS the car. I'm sure speculation is much more fun than his experience
Ehh, lots of people's "actual experience" is very much untrustworthy - we don't pay attention, we misattribute things, we're deluded by various illusions etc. I'm just saying I've had the same car wear different tires at different rates while I at least thought I was driving substantially the same. Everyone I know thinks "tires don't last as long as they did 20 years ago", but is that true? No one has the same car and same brand tires, and couldn't have the same production run of tires to actually compare due to aging out...
I would think it's more likely that people are using the higher torque to wear the tires faster.
EDIT: It also probably depends on how much of a differential in weight there is. A quick google shows ICE weights are up too - a 2020 Honda Pilot was 4,000lbs to 4,300lbs, a 2024 was 4,300 to 4,660 or so. my 2018 Outback was 3,600 I think. Kagi searching a Model 3 vs Impreza for instance shows the Model 3 at ~3,500 and the Impreza at ~3,400. Maybe I'm already used to heavy vehicles for AWD?