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10 Years in Timeshares, TUG and How Life Changes...

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Wow!!! Time Flies...

If anyone took advantage of TUG (bullboards, sightings, owner exchanges, rental board, (rentor and rentee) - IT WAS ME!!! This site could be the greatest collection of like minded people I have seen. The knowledge, tips, connections and friends is truly amazing!!!

THANK YOU!!! - So many people have helped me and most don't even know it!

I bought my first timeshare ten years ago (resale) to address some needs that wasn't served with hotels. Some of the TUG pros know that my son is autistic and space in hotels never allowed my son to decompress after a day of shopping/parks/whatever, so timeshares were a perfect fit. In those ten years, our tour has taken us to over 20 different timeshares and several that we loved so much that we returned to more than once. (Disney Vero Beach, PBSB, Marriott Grand Vista, HGVC Strip, Sheraton Desert Oasis, Elara, Vegas Trump and HGVC Strip.) We have another four weeks planned with 150+ TPU's available and a couple weeks on hold in RCI.

Other TUG pros know that I am a self proclaimed timeshare snob - Always searching for the DVCs, Westins, Marriotts, Hiltons and Hyatts and generally avoiding the generic ones whenever possible. There was always something about sitting in the hot tub with someone knowing that I paid $500 for a week that someone else was paying five + times that, it only fueled my desire to play the game even more. The thrill of the hunt with exchanges (and posting on the private forum - if you are not a member, this is the biggest benefit!) was amazing!!! I would wait up til after 2am local waiting for the deposits in RCI. Often snagging Hawaii weeks, Manhattan Club and Mexico Christmas/New Years weeks for myself and friends.

Its inevitable that life changes. Kids grow up, life circumstances changes and so do our needs for vacations and what that entails. I'm now 40 years old, with an 18 year old autistic son and a 15 year old daughter with social anxiety disorder, ADHD and sever dietary restrictions. The autism piece was known, but as they age, its always a moving target. What is acceptable one year is not necessarily the same the next year. My daughters situation is a newer development - staying in non-American/Canadian resort can be difficult for shopping - veganism is one step away from being a cult, but I digress!

What served us well 10 years ago doesn't serve us well now. What it comes down to is dueling priorities - those of my son/daughter/myself. I am very blessed with our previous trips and the memories made, but now those seem like few and far between. Timeshares work well for me, but not necessarily as well for everyone else.

As I sit overlooking the ocean on the balcony of a Presidential Suite in Mazatlan (sipping on a mojito), I ask Tuggers...

How do you prioritize whats important in vacation, travel and timeshares? I feel like i was winning before, but now I feel like I'm losing...
 

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Wow!!! Time Flies...

If anyone took advantage of TUG (bullboards, sightings, owner exchanges, rental board, (rentor and rentee) - IT WAS ME!!! This site could be the greatest collection of like minded people I have seen. The knowledge, tips, connections and friends is truly amazing!!!

THANK YOU!!! - So many people have helped me and most don't even know it!

I bought my first timeshare ten years ago (resale) to address some needs that wasn't served with hotels. Some of the TUG pros know that my son is autistic and space in hotels never allowed my son to decompress after a day of shopping/parks/whatever, so timeshares were a perfect fit. In those ten years, our tour has taken us to over 20 different timeshares and several that we loved so much that we returned to more than once. (Disney Vero Beach, PBSB, Marriott Grand Vista, HGVC Strip, Sheraton Desert Oasis, Elara, Vegas Trump and HGVC Strip.) We have another four weeks planned with 150+ TPU's available and a couple weeks on hold in RCI.

Other TUG pros know that I am a self proclaimed timeshare snob - Always searching for the DVCs, Westins, Marriotts, Hiltons and Hyatts and generally avoiding the generic ones whenever possible. There was always something about sitting in the hot tub with someone knowing that I paid $500 for a week that someone else was paying five + times that, it only fueled my desire to play the game even more. The thrill of the hunt with exchanges (and posting on the private forum - if you are not a member, this is the biggest benefit!) was amazing!!! I would wait up til after 2am local waiting for the deposits in RCI. Often snagging Hawaii weeks, Manhattan Club and Mexico Christmas/New Years weeks for myself and friends.

Its inevitable that life changes. Kids grow up, life circumstances changes and so do our needs for vacations and what that entails. I'm now 40 years old, with an 18 year old autistic son and a 15 year old daughter with social anxiety disorder, ADHD and sever dietary restrictions. The autism piece was known, but as they age, its always a moving target. What is acceptable one year is not necessarily the same the next year. My daughters situation is a newer development - staying in non-American/Canadian resort can be difficult for shopping - veganism is one step away from being a cult, but I digress!

What served us well 10 years ago doesn't serve us well now. What it comes down to is dueling priorities - those of my son/daughter/myself. I am very blessed with our previous trips and the memories made, but now those seem like few and far between. Timeshares work well for me, but not necessarily as well for everyone else.

As I sit overlooking the ocean on the balcony of a Presidential Suite in Mazatlan (sipping on a mojito), I ask Tuggers...

How do you prioritize whats important in vacation, travel and timeshares? I feel like i was winning before, but now I feel like I'm losing...
It is great you experienced wonderful vacations because of timesharing.

For me, winning and losing has changed depending on family obligations, as with you. Within the last year I had to cancel almost all my timeshares due to my moms health and then my moving. I have so many II weeks, rci tpu's and hgvc points that I definitely am on the losing end.

But life changes in a moment and things work out once you figure out what is the best blend. Mom is better and in January I hope to enjoy timesharing again.

Just look at it in a more simplistic way. It might not be able to be what it was but what can it be that will work for the time being?

For me it was renting out some weeks, will be finding new homes for some but still traveling just not as much.

As for your daughters food restrictions, I so understand as I have them too. What I do many times is buy the local fresh foods and cook them in my unit. Initially I felt deprived but in time I actually enjoyed it more.
 

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It is great you experienced wonderful vacations because of timesharing.

For me, winning and losing has changed depending on family obligations, as with you. Within the last year I had to cancel almost all my timeshares due to my moms health and then my moving. I have so many II weeks, rci tpu's and hgvc points that I definitely am on the losing end.

But life changes in a moment and things work out once you figure out what is the best blend. Mom is better and in January I hope to enjoy timesharing again.

Just look at it in a more simplistic way. It might not be able to be what it was but what can it be that will work for the time being?

For me it was renting out some weeks, will be finding new homes for some but still traveling just not as much.

As for your daughters food restrictions, I so understand as I have them too. What I do many times is buy the local fresh foods and cook them in my unit. Initially I felt deprived but in time I actually enjoyed it more.
My first impression would be that your daughter's dietary needs would be more easily handled in a timeshare. Why is that not the case?
 

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My first impression would be that your daughter's dietary needs would be more easily handled in a timeshare. Why is that not the case?
Valid question.

Up until a few years back, México was the perfect destination. Lots of inventory, great resorts, Christmas availability, Wal-Marts for easy shopping, exotic enough that it’s fun, but close enough to “North American” when required.

Try finding “veggie ground round”, foods with vegan symbols or even readily available “safe foods” from home in Mexico. It’s very difficult. One of the American/Canadian advantages. Amazing how a small difference changes how you can travel. It’s not a timeshare vs. hotel question, it’s more a destination question and how it affects travel and timeshares.
 
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My advice: stop thinking about “winning” in terms of what you paid vs what someone else paid. Someone else paying more doesn’t make your life better or worse, it just is. I suspect if you let go of that, you’d find selecting fun destinations that *also* work for your family’s needs is really quite easy.
 

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My advice: stop thinking about “winning” in terms of what you paid vs what someone else paid. Someone else paying more doesn’t make your life better or worse, it just is. I suspect if you let go of that, you’d find selecting fun destinations that *also* work for your family’s needs is really quite easy.
When I say winning and losing, it’s not about the cost. Bad choice of words. It’s about the satisfaction of a trip that works out vs. one that is more stressful to go one than if we just stayed at home. Maybe our past travels were so great that we can’t get that level of enjoyment/satisfaction out of our current/future trips.

We have stayed at generic timeshares and found the quality/cleanliness/amenities an issue that affects our trip. Biggest issue with timeshares is living in Winnipeg, really in the middle of nowhere - timeshare wise.
 
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As the last ten years have flown as in a moment, so will your next five years or so - and then some of the issues you face my sort themselves out in ways you can never imagine. Perhaps you choose to pull back your travel to less exotic locations for a few years, recognizing that you're young enough to still enjoy more interesting places again in the future.

We have an autistic daughter who's now in her late 20s. She still deals with issues but some have improved through age, help from specialists and the right medications. I remember several vacations where we dealt with her meltdowns, threats to run away - and worse, and her teenage sibling's anger at her behavior. It wasn't much fun for us as parents, but we still have some pleasant memories of experiences from those same trips and I suspect that most of the drama has faded from the memories of my kids. We just tried to do the best we could and had to accept that things might not be perfect. But that's hard to do when you're in the throes of the drama that can happen when you're dealing with special needs kids.

As for what was important to us - spending time together as a family (even if it could be stressful sometimes) because both my husband and I had time-sucking jobs and giving our kids experiences that would help broaden their horizons.
 

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When I say winning and losing, it’s not about the cost. Bad choice of words. It’s about the satisfaction of a trip that works out vs. one that is more stressful to go one than if we just stayed at home.
Are you sure about that? Because what you wrote was:

Other TUG pros know that I am a self proclaimed timeshare snob - Always searching for the DVCs, Westins, Marriotts, Hiltons and Hyatts and generally avoiding the generic ones whenever possible. There was always something about sitting in the hot tub with someone knowing that I paid $500 for a week that someone else was paying five + times that, it only fueled my desire to play the game even more. The thrill of the hunt with exchanges (and posting on the private forum - if you are not a member, this is the biggest benefit!) was amazing!!! I would wait up til after 2am local waiting for the deposits in RCI. Often snagging Hawaii weeks, Manhattan Club and Mexico Christmas/New Years weeks for myself and friends.
As for "quality" vs. trip satisfaction: One of our favorite resorts is a non-branded one with furnishings and decor that are definitely dated. Laminate countertops. There are some nice gas grills, and a "good" pool that belongs to the hotel side of the complex to which timeshare guests may or may not have access, depending on the agreement in place at the time. It's definitely not chock-a-block with resort activities, amenities, etc.

Why do we love it? This is why; this is the view from the lanai.
IMG_6843 (2).jpg


And that's from the "bad" building. The other two are better. Our first visit was via an internal booking in a mini-system. We liked it so much we bought two annual weeks there.
 

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This past summer, we were staying at a timeshare in Bartlett, NH. Across the street at the ski slope, they were holding a weekend-long blueberry festival that ended with fireworks. My husband and I stood on the front porch of our unit and got a bird's eye view of the display. Another guest, a young man of about 18, came out to watch with us. As he watched the beautiful explosions, he had his hands clasped over his ears but his smile was wide and he jumped up and down. I felt that I was looking into our future; our 8 year old grandson is on the spectrum and he loves the light display of fireworks but wears noise cancelling head phones because of the sound. The joy that he brings to our lives is profound but the challenges are many, and as you noted, constantly changing. Last year, we spent a small fortune taking him to Disneyland to see the Cars 3 park. As always with timeshares and airfare, we planned it months in advance. There were some glitches but, by the time we got there, Cars 3 was no longer his fixation. Sigh. This is one of those things that people who deal with those who have Autism learn as they go. Staying in timeshares has already served us well in terms of meltdowns and environmental modifications. Having discovered that Smuggs has a summer program has been a wonderful thing and we are so looking forward to taking him and giving his parents well-deserved down time as well as offering him typical experiences and meeting new people. I do know that the challenges will likely increase as time passes and hope, should you find workable solutions, that you share them.

As far as the vegan diet, my daughter, who had many food sensitivities, opted to become a vegan several years ago. I think it is challenging even in the US. Little did I know how vigilant one must be. We went to a pizza restaurant and she asked if the garlic on the pizza was roasted or browned in butter. We were told absolutely not. Never. A few hours later, she was as sick as could be. What she discovered by becoming a vegan is that she is seriously allergic to dairy (hence the reaction to butter) and painfully sensitive to beef and soy. She has since come to avoid those foods and no longer follows a vegan diet but her year of veganism not only helped her discover what he food issues were, it also made it clear how hard it is to have food restrictions. Food label are always helpful but eating anywhere is fraught with challenges and even sometimes, dangers.

I am glad that TUG has provided you with the information and skill set to enjoy your vacations. I, too, have found that information. But I also have found others, like you and a few others, whose shared life experiences help me know that our big, fat crazy life (filled with mostly happiness) is not the only crazy one out here. Thanks for sharing, gnorth16. Happy holidays!

Best,
Judi
 

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:cheer:Timesharing for me has been a moving target. Desires and needs changed, and as they did, so did my portfolio.

For me, it wasn’t ever so much about the resort as it was about the location. Weeks ownerships and exchanges through RCI were fine, because I was most interested in visiting different areas. I bought and sold a number of units, trying to dial in the perfect mix.

About ten years ago I decided I was less interested in exchanging, and more about a yearly visit or two to the same resort in Hawaii. I sold off everything else, and traveled a LOT to one specific resort, always staying in the same unit. Awesome vacations, and we enjoyed it a great deal.

Then, after growing weary of staying in the same place, and realizing a full week in the same place was becoming a problem. I sold the Hawaii week, and was timeshare-free for about two days.

Enter WorldMark. I scored a killer deal on eBay, and I have never looked back. Short term getaways, cash purchase options that save using my credits, and the great availability in my part of the country has been very satisfying.

Just over the weekend I took advantage of an airfare sale on Alaska, and I booked a four-day getaway to San Francisco. WorldMark had availability, and I snagged it for a discounted cash price. I couldn’t have done this before, if I still owned just Weeks.

When WorldMark ceases to be good for me, I’ll pass it along to a new owner, and just rent when and where I want to go.

So yes, timesharing works, but you have to work the program. :cheer:

Dave
 
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Are you sure about that? Because what you wrote was:



As for "quality" vs. trip satisfaction: One of our favorite resorts is a non-branded one with furnishings and decor that are definitely dated. Laminate countertops. There are some nice gas grills, and a "good" pool that belongs to the hotel side of the complex to which timeshare guests may or may not have access, depending on the agreement in place at the time. It's definitely not chock-a-block with resort activities, amenities, etc.

Why do we love it? This is why; this is the view from the lanai.
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And that's from the "bad" building. The other two are better. Our first visit was via an internal booking in a mini-system. We liked it so much we bought two annual weeks there.
Is that building F at Kauai Beach Villas? The view looks familiar. We were just at that resort earlier this month and stayed in building G. We got a map of the resort and marked the units that aren't oceanfront but still have fantastic views and are less points.
 

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Are you sure about that? Because what you wrote was:
Two different topics. I still love the thrill of the hunt with exchanges and getting the best deal I can.

In the past everyone was so excited for our trips - it was all the kids could talk about before, during and after the trip. Now, I feel like a family vacation is an inconvenience to the kids and they would rather stay at home. If there is no net benefit as a family, why bother going on vacations? Maybe staycations are the way to go for a while? Traveling alone/without kids would be nice, but not really an option.

As for that picture - that’s what I love! Balconies/patios are high on MY list of priorities.
 

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Timesharing for me has been a moving target. Desires and needs changed, and as they did, so did my portfolio.
Exactly my deal and without TUG I would never have been able to make the transition. I started with a pre-construction Marriott Sabal Palms Week; added Harbour Club and Heritage Club Weeks; then our Monarch Crown Suite. These worked great while we had young kids. Gradually change set in. Our kids grew up and my wife and I split. Along the way I sold the Marriott Weeks (at slightly better than a break even) and gravitated on the cheap to 6 Fixed Week/Fixed Units at HOA Controlled Independents in places I visited annually. As time went on and I aged I gradually divested myself of these. Knowledge picked up from TUG was invaluable during this entire odyssey...

George
 

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Is that building F at Kauai Beach Villas? The view looks familiar. We were just at that resort earlier this month and stayed in building G. We got a map of the resort and marked the units that aren't oceanfront but still have fantastic views and are less points.
I’m pretty sure you’re right - I have that same photo, taken during a trip with my dad several years ago. He owned an EOY there which he has now passed on to my brother. Beautiful location, troubled management (see the sub forum on the Hawaii forum page).
 

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Is that building F at Kauai Beach Villas? The view looks familiar. We were just at that resort earlier this month and stayed in building G. We got a map of the resort and marked the units that aren't oceanfront but still have fantastic views and are less points.
Yes. AFAIK, F is also oceanfront though, as are G and H. (We own unconverted oceanfront weeks; at this resort, oceanfront is a deeded category.)
 

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as kids become teens and young adults, it does get harder to "win" on a trip, even without dietary and special needs, etc. We got a rare fab exchange to Bermuda when the kids were in high school. We thought that Bermuda would be special/cool/interesting to them. Several of the days my teens just stayed in the room while we went snorkeling at a world renowned beach. We had as much fun with them in the pool and playing boccie ball as anything else on the trip. They're good kids and don't even complain or say I'm bored, but that's when we realized that the great travel as a family was about done. We still take at least 1 trip a year--but it's more likely to be going to WDW or hiking in a drive-to locale vs. a grande trip these days. We had 2 great fixed beach weeks that we haven't been to in 6+years. One I gave away, the other I deposit in RCI. And the "hunt" for me is now just a hassle, not fun anymore.
So, for OP, maybe pick a N American resort to lessen the hassle and just go enjoy family time. Or for more exotic, Hawaii instead of MX?
 

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We own flexible points /deeds systems 1) HGVC/points and 2) Westin Hawaii/Staroptions. Having flexibility of locations, unit sizes and dates has matched our needs as they changed.

Timeshare vacations to places like Hawaii and Mexico are one the ways we "incent" our college age kids to spend time with us. We've had some incredible memories. When at home they are off with friends so hardly see.

We are increasingly using the timeshares outside of school vacations for just the two of us which works out well and stretches our ownership. But the kids still join us once or twice a year on a big trip to Hawaii and sometimes spring break.
 
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gnorth, you have a great attitude toward life. You will make lemonade out of the phase you are in. You are still young, and many great moments are going to come your way yet.
 

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Gnorth, I too am one of the young(ish) members of the group. I’ve also learned so much here and it has guided my purchases. I’ve noticed that things do change and they change fast. I prioritize by balancing out the kids needs and mine and my husbands. My kids (especially my son) want constant action. Disney/Atlantis/ renting a house on the beach with tons of friends are his choices for top vacations. I enjoy them to some degree, but I work full time and have a second job (I am a Behavior Analyst for kids with autism and behavior disorders and see private clients for extra $) so a vacation to me is sipping a drink by the pool, going for a swim/snorkel and an amazing ocean view. I enjoy it just being the 4 of us and having nice dinners together. My kids have been spoiled by traveling with my brothers’ families often and so they always want the action, and the cousins to go with it. My daughter is more go-with-the flow but it dawned on me- she will be leaving for college in less than 4 years :( My son is complaining that he doesn’t want to go to St. Thomas (trip planned for April) bc there are no waves, and no cousins. I told him this vacation is for me and Dad. There are times when the vacation feels like more work than it’s worth (think Disney with a group of 17, and my husband who just goes for me and the kids). No matter what the trips are providing experiences for the kids. Things change fast. I just try to keep up.


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Wow!!! Time Flies...

If anyone took advantage of TUG (bullboards, sightings, owner exchanges, rental board, (rentor and rentee) - IT WAS ME!!! This site could be the greatest collection of like minded people I have seen. The knowledge, tips, connections and friends is truly amazing!!!

THANK YOU!!! - So many people have helped me and most don't even know it!

I bought my first timeshare ten years ago (resale) to address some needs that wasn't served with hotels. Some of the TUG pros know that my son is autistic and space in hotels never allowed my son to decompress after a day of shopping/parks/whatever, so timeshares were a perfect fit. In those ten years, our tour has taken us to over 20 different timeshares and several that we loved so much that we returned to more than once. (Disney Vero Beach, PBSB, Marriott Grand Vista, HGVC Strip, Sheraton Desert Oasis, Elara, Vegas Trump and HGVC Strip.) We have another four weeks planned with 150+ TPU's available and a couple weeks on hold in RCI.

Other TUG pros know that I am a self proclaimed timeshare snob - Always searching for the DVCs, Westins, Marriotts, Hiltons and Hyatts and generally avoiding the generic ones whenever possible. There was always something about sitting in the hot tub with someone knowing that I paid $500 for a week that someone else was paying five + times that, it only fueled my desire to play the game even more. The thrill of the hunt with exchanges (and posting on the private forum - if you are not a member, this is the biggest benefit!) was amazing!!! I would wait up til after 2am local waiting for the deposits in RCI. Often snagging Hawaii weeks, Manhattan Club and Mexico Christmas/New Years weeks for myself and friends.

Its inevitable that life changes. Kids grow up, life circumstances changes and so do our needs for vacations and what that entails. I'm now 40 years old, with an 18 year old autistic son and a 15 year old daughter with social anxiety disorder, ADHD and sever dietary restrictions. The autism piece was known, but as they age, its always a moving target. What is acceptable one year is not necessarily the same the next year. My daughters situation is a newer development - staying in non-American/Canadian resort can be difficult for shopping - veganism is one step away from being a cult, but I digress!

What served us well 10 years ago doesn't serve us well now. What it comes down to is dueling priorities - those of my son/daughter/myself. I am very blessed with our previous trips and the memories made, but now those seem like few and far between. Timeshares work well for me, but not necessarily as well for everyone else.

As I sit overlooking the ocean on the balcony of a Presidential Suite in Mazatlan (sipping on a mojito), I ask Tuggers...

How do you prioritize whats important in vacation, travel and timeshares? I feel like i was winning before, but now I feel like I'm losing...
Life changes and so how you approach the new situations change. I love TUG and like you, I am grateful for the help, the advice, the camaraderie, and "the hunt." We purchased MOC pre-construction, knowing nothing about timeshares. But, like you, the vacations and the fun of teaching two kids how to snorkel and enjoy the ocean wildlife was amazing and created memories and priceless family time. As with others, my mother's health declined and my mother-in-law from Seattle stopped joining us on our February vacations. Still, the photos and memories are priceless.

My children grew up and one went to college leaving us with one who wanted to stay in the room and game. I felt like our vacations were an imposition. That was a phase and we brought both to The Big Island with us and we were lucky to see amazing fish and one year swim in the wild with dolphins. We could not have done our family meals, and crazy swimming excursions without the space and flexibility of a timeshare. It enhanced our time together and allowed privacy for the now, young adults and teens. Soon, I suspect, there will be significant others and the dynamic will change our activities again. But, the room/space flexibility of timeshares allow us to modify our vacations and incorporate different stages of life. As another poster wrote, make lemonade. It will be a good fit again. Advice and life experience of other TUGGERS are one of the most special qualities of this group. Hope you pivot and feel like you are winning again.
 

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One of the things I really like about TUG is that when I think I am alone, I am not. So many people have/are going through similar situations, whether its life changes and how it affects timeshares, balancing priorities or children with autism. My original post was a mashup of a thank you, a vent, a request for help and a thought for others to reflect on their own life. What did I receive? Support, empathy, wonderful personal experiences and helpful suggestions going forward. The biggest take away is changing my attitude and outlook - not comparing to vacations of the past, but to enjoy the moments as they happen, even if they are not as frequent. This trip has brought good memories and quality time with each member of my family, its different than when the kids were younger (didn't have devices and thought their dad was cool!) but definitely more that at home, while doing things we couldn't at home. I will re-evaluate my timeshares and how I use them in the near future.

Thanks again to such a wonderful group of people for the help and support. TUG is the best!!!
 

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We started timesharing about the same time as OP - pretty sure that I bought our first unit in March of 2011. Our kids were older - our youngest had just started college and I thought that we could entice them to do nice family trips in a large timeshare. I think that happened twice - once on Maui, and once at Tahoe (Northstar). Otherwise the planning ahead part of timesharing doesn't work for them, neither do the locations. Two of our three want to go to the middle of nowhere, the other one wants cities. So it has turned into something for either just us, or us and another couple. I still love it but it didn't turn out the way that I expected. My husband was definitely skeptical at first but now he may like it even more than I do - hard to believe. On the plus side it has saved us a ton of money and I have "met" an awesome group of people (tuggers) along the way. :) Looking ahead, I am pretty sure that it will change again at some point. Life can be managed, but not planned.
 

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We just spent NYE at Disneyland, and seversl other vacations with our college age kids. While most young adults want to run off with their friends on drunken vacations in Ft Lauderdale, cabo etc. Our kids look forward to joining us. The family time is priceless because they live far away at school and we do not see them for months. Timeshares have enabled this by giving us the 2 bdrms+ space we need while providing quality assurance over an AirBnB.

Now they are starting to have significant others we will likely bunch our points to get a second unit or rent. Alternatively we will downsize our TS points/units for the two of us to use, and rent VRBO for crowd.
 
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Is that building F at Kauai Beach Villas? The view looks familiar. We were just at that resort earlier this month and stayed in building G. We got a map of the resort and marked the units that aren't oceanfront but still have fantastic views and are less points.
Are you willing to share your list? I have a lagoon view 2 bd reserved for June and as VIP Wyndham have the option to request a unit #. Having never been to this location before I have no clue! Ty either way for reading this, Francine
 
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