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As small numbers of people continue to ignore social distancing measures, many others who have been stuck indoors for days on end and are worried about their health, or the health of their loved ones, are raging as a result.
The actions of others pose a threat. As therapist Pam Custers puts it: “They’re symbolically running a red light.” We know the potential danger and strain on health services that may come from those who don’t properly social distance or follow the lockdown measures – and our instinct is to judge them.
Since the recent blissful bout of hot weather, photos have emerged on social media and Whatsapp of neighbours having barbecues with visitors, strangers arriving at their second homes on the coast, and people sunbathing in parks.
Equally, lots of people posting on Instagram with the StayHome sticker have gardens, balconies or, in the case of celebrities, massive mansions, prompting those without those things to think: “nice for you, pal – hard life, isn’t it.”
You’d be forgiven for judging or resenting what you see online or out of your window – but do you let it ruin the rest of our day? Or channel it into something more positive? And, if you want to focus on the latter, where do you even begin?
As humans, we’re judgmental at the best of times, but lockdown is exacerbating that, and it’s really not surprising if you think about the emotional context.
Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy suggests that judging people is a “protective instinct”. Given the circumstances, and the fact people are doing things that could be perceived as a threat to our health and the health of others, it seems only natural to judge them. Our brain is telling us to back off. Not to trust them.
People instinctively want to be part of a group that makes them feel safe and welcome. “But the problem is that’s not really how western society is structured,” says psychologist Dr Simon Stuart, who works in mental health services in Scotland.
“Western society is very individualistic. We tend to scrabble around trying to find groups – it might be our loved ones, our family – if we’re lucky we might have a sense of wider belonging than that. But most of us don’t.”
We look for places and groups where we feel safe, but these are not necessarily forthcoming, particularly at a time like this – and our mind starts taking shortcuts to try and seek out these places of safety, Dr Stuart suggests........
Read full article here:
www.huffingtonpost.co.uk
The actions of others pose a threat. As therapist Pam Custers puts it: “They’re symbolically running a red light.” We know the potential danger and strain on health services that may come from those who don’t properly social distance or follow the lockdown measures – and our instinct is to judge them.
Since the recent blissful bout of hot weather, photos have emerged on social media and Whatsapp of neighbours having barbecues with visitors, strangers arriving at their second homes on the coast, and people sunbathing in parks.
Equally, lots of people posting on Instagram with the StayHome sticker have gardens, balconies or, in the case of celebrities, massive mansions, prompting those without those things to think: “nice for you, pal – hard life, isn’t it.”
You’d be forgiven for judging or resenting what you see online or out of your window – but do you let it ruin the rest of our day? Or channel it into something more positive? And, if you want to focus on the latter, where do you even begin?
As humans, we’re judgmental at the best of times, but lockdown is exacerbating that, and it’s really not surprising if you think about the emotional context.
Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy suggests that judging people is a “protective instinct”. Given the circumstances, and the fact people are doing things that could be perceived as a threat to our health and the health of others, it seems only natural to judge them. Our brain is telling us to back off. Not to trust them.
People instinctively want to be part of a group that makes them feel safe and welcome. “But the problem is that’s not really how western society is structured,” says psychologist Dr Simon Stuart, who works in mental health services in Scotland.
“Western society is very individualistic. We tend to scrabble around trying to find groups – it might be our loved ones, our family – if we’re lucky we might have a sense of wider belonging than that. But most of us don’t.”
We look for places and groups where we feel safe, but these are not necessarily forthcoming, particularly at a time like this – and our mind starts taking shortcuts to try and seek out these places of safety, Dr Stuart suggests........
Read full article here:
Judging Other People During Lockdown Can Do More Harm Than Good
The judgment is real and distracting. But how can you stop it from consuming you?
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