@geekette @WinniWoman Thank you for your thoughts , comments, opinions. They are very much appreciated.
So 3.5 years ago, I downsized from my big single family home into my 2 bedroom townhome that I share w/my daughter. I built it new & wow is it nice moving into a brand new home. It has been just perfect for us girls and I absolutely love it. We've had a wonderful few years here. I went through a massive purging of furniture / possessions, so at least that awful task has been done. I don't ever want to maintain a yard ever again. And I don't mind having close proximity neighbors (probably b/c I have great neighbors currently - hahahaha).
I mentally had a longer-term horizon for moving out of IL -- mainly being prompted by my hatred of winter (which got solidified from commuting on the train for 25 years downtown) and the huge tax burdens in IL , which never seem to stop growing. However, my desire to move has been accelerated in the past few months & I've decided to move up my timeline. The reasons are somewhat driven by politics -- but also -- the main draw of Illinois is Chicago & the violence in Chicago is so horrible that I just can't stomach it anymore. My siblings are all in the Midwest so I will miss regular visits with them.
I visit Phoenix quite a bit I love it there. Part of why I like it is there are so many ex-Chicagoans there that it feels like "home". There is Portillos , Lou Malnatis (all local Chicago institutions) there and I always meet former Chicagoans while visiting. Cubs spring training is there , too. I have a few friends that live there so there is a safety net of that.
I have a lot of thinking to do. One MAJOR hurdle is to see if my company will let me keep my job if I move. I don't know if I can stomach moving AND looking for a new job this late in my career.
I have been through so much in the past 10 years. One advantage of that is that my confidence has grown knowing I can handle and weather change.
Thank you again for your thoughts .
BTW, it's an absolutely gorgeous night in Chicago area. We are now allowed limited outdoor dining. Our suburban downtown has done a great job with blocking off streets so restaurants have more room to set up outdoor tables. I saw SO MANY PEOPLE smiling and laughing tonight . Good for the soul. Especially after the last week we have had. Sunday night I slept with a hammer in my bed & would not let my daughter out of the house. I hope that the worst of things are behind us.