Earlier in the thread, we talked about being blind to one's own clutter. And it is absolutely true.
The office was a mutual clutter zone. Ian thought that the workroom - where he does projects and I do needlework - was all my clutter. It took us about 2 hours to sort through and organize all of my projects, supplies, tools and paraphernalia. It took another hour to put up the elfa utility boards to make everything accessible. Completely finished in three hours.
After I organized my work space --- and he hung the elfa for me as part of my Christmas present, I was finished with my stuff in the workroom.
Last week while the organizer was here, I went on to the master bedroom to work without her. Last week, the organizer and Ian still worked on his part of the workroom. And he spent all week working on it. It has taken him more than 20 hours to organize his side of the workroom -- and now it is done and it looks great. (So great that the organizer took pictures of how he had set up the space. It was the first time that she has taken pictures in our house. Ian asked if she had taken "before" pictures --- she said it had not been bad enough to take before pictures --- but the workroom was so good looking and well organized, that she wanted pictures of it. Ian was proud of the work that he had done and rightly so).
Now, Ian is in the mode of working on his stuff. Today, while the organizer was here, he wanted to work on the garage. And, instead of me working on the master bedroom --- which we both recognize is my stuff --- he wanted me to help make decisions about my stuff in the garage.
So, for the last two hours, while the organizer was here, I was in the garage waiting to make a decision. We have now made the first purge pass on one half of the garage. When they started on the garage, I went to work on the master bedroom. Ian said, "Sweetie, I need you to stay here to make decisions." So, I did.
During that time, we came to 3 things that belong to me that we kept exactly where they were: a dive bag (for packing my scuba gear), 2 suitcases. One thing of mine that we gave to Goodwill: a hammock chair. And one thing that we moved: a container of Maxicrop (a liquid fertilizer that got moved to the other gardening stuff --- which is on the other side of the garage).
Ian honestly believed that I had as much stuff in the garage as he did. Not even close to true! On the other side, I have a bike, a rack of gardening equipment and two shelves of gardening "stuff." And I know he thinks that more than half of the other side is my stuff, too.
The master bedroom was and is almost all my stuff ... and it isn't done. Because I am working on the garage.
The organizer is great for keeping us on task. Because she gives us homework, we are making terrific progress. We spend more time working on our own than we do with her. And she is a good arbitrator or mediator. ... which just made me realize that there was some more stuff in the garage that belongs to me: a stack of empty buckets that the pool chlorine comes in. I save these for future gardening projects. When I elected to keep them instead of recycling them, Melinda had me make a deadline for myself as to when I would use them by (I chose April 30th) ... so now I am committed to getting rid of them if I don't use them.
Even though Ian and I are both blind (or at least near-sighted) to our own clutter, by dealing with each and every thing, we are making terrific progress. Before, Ian wanted to work on the organizing himself which meant getting rid of my stuff. With the organizer, he has to work on his stuff, too.
After the garage (mostly Ian's) and the patio (a toss-up), the rest of the spaces that we will be working on will almost all be my stuff: guest bath, master bath, and master bedroom.
I think that we have about 6 more weeks of work.
What has been amazing has been the fact that we have been able to keep everything together --- no backsliding.
elaine