Fern Modena
TUG Lifetime Member
Dawn,
I don't enjoy this empty house thing, either. But you have a husband, and he only travels from time to time. So don't you talk when he is there? Maybe you need to communicate more/better. I remember when I was a child my mother would "pre-read" the newspaper for my dad and mark stories that she thought he would be interested in. Jerry and I used to read together and discuss the news. If you lack things to talk about try a news item a day. You can talk about things you read about rather than people.
Change your routine. Make one night a week "date night," and go out for dinner, or a movie, or an art exhibit or something. Celebrate your togetherness.
You sound like you need to be needed. Volunteering is a good way. There are so many ways to volunteer. Many elementary schools would love to have more volunteers. And there are big sister organizations. Plus there are those who help old people or shut ins. There are so many people who really NEED you if you look around.
If you don't have any nearby friends because everybody moved away, etc., then join something. A women's club, a church group, something. I actually met most of my friends volunteering, believe it or not. They belonged to the same groups I did, and so it told me that we might be like minded (and we were).
You don't "get over" your children moving out. You continue on with your life, as is meant to happen. All life is full of transitions. That is what life is about, and you can't stop it.
Fern
I don't enjoy this empty house thing, either. But you have a husband, and he only travels from time to time. So don't you talk when he is there? Maybe you need to communicate more/better. I remember when I was a child my mother would "pre-read" the newspaper for my dad and mark stories that she thought he would be interested in. Jerry and I used to read together and discuss the news. If you lack things to talk about try a news item a day. You can talk about things you read about rather than people.
Change your routine. Make one night a week "date night," and go out for dinner, or a movie, or an art exhibit or something. Celebrate your togetherness.
You sound like you need to be needed. Volunteering is a good way. There are so many ways to volunteer. Many elementary schools would love to have more volunteers. And there are big sister organizations. Plus there are those who help old people or shut ins. There are so many people who really NEED you if you look around.
If you don't have any nearby friends because everybody moved away, etc., then join something. A women's club, a church group, something. I actually met most of my friends volunteering, believe it or not. They belonged to the same groups I did, and so it told me that we might be like minded (and we were).
You don't "get over" your children moving out. You continue on with your life, as is meant to happen. All life is full of transitions. That is what life is about, and you can't stop it.
Fern