@Quilter ... 3 nice meals and a snack sounds like a good plan that’s working for you. I need 3 meals....but portion control works for me.
The portions for these meals seem to monitor themselves. DH, DD and now BIL are eating the food I'm planning. The fat (not counted), protein (not counting) and fiber are primary sources. They satisfy and it's easier to say enough is enough.
BIL is newest to this. He's the nicest, most caring, considerate person to a fault. The last years of my MIL's life he made the weekend trip to be a companion since she was pretty home bound. Now he has quit his job to make sure the middle brother who has Parkinson's doesn't sink into depression by being alone too often. He also house sits for us and takes great care of the cat. Lots of self-made rules of "politeness" that can border on high-maintenance. If you had a business this is the guy who is so honest and eager to please you'd treasure him as an employee. I've asked him to move in with us but he values his independence and rents a room in a house about 1/2 hour from here.
We've SIP with DD until this week. We came home to MI on Monday. BIL was watching our house so he's now SIP with us. His pattern of eating was to have some prepared food from market or Panera or Lee's chicken as take out. Maybe a frozen dinner from grocery that didn't have ingredients that "bothered him". Gaps in hunger would be satisfied with bowls of rice Krispy type cereal with skim milk or cheese. His latest favorite meal was an Indian dish he found at a local market that he would pair with pita bread. That market is too small for his comfort now so he hasn't had it for several weeks. We are both sugar addicts and historically could really enjoy a night of a binge on cake. In past visits he would graciously eat my cooking but he made it clear certain foods "bothered him". Staples in my cooking include garlic, onions and a wide range of spices. No, no, no. Later, when I would ask if something "bothered him" he'd say no. Then I would reveal the taboo ingredient. Slowly he was coming around to understanding he was banning an ingredient when in reality it was a preservative in the prepared food that was really causing his sensitivity. While he ate cheese, he had given up most other fat because he blamed it for his weight gain. He's 30-50 lbs. overweight. Daily pattern went from depriving himself to bowls of cereal or cheese to ward off hunger.
Now we're thrown together for lengths of time. It's either SIP here or at the rooming house. I've made it clear that by going back and forth he is exposing us to whatever and wherever his contacts have been exposed to. He's getting the picture. DH and I are 7 years older than him.
So he sees the product of our new lifestyle. He's a tough nut to crack but after 5 days he said at dinner last night that we're living pretty good. On our walk yesterday I asked if the soup from yesterday (made from leftovers of chicken dinner) "bothered him". No. Then I asked if the meatballs we had for dinner "bothered him". No. Both had onions.
The chicken-dinner-then-soup gave us at least 3 meals. The meatballs were at least 3. Final meatball meal was a Big Mac salad including cheddar cheese and homemade Thousand Island dressing. Portions are as much as you want but I make enough for the 3 of us and we dish up to share evenly.
Pizza and salad last night. Since that's a starch from wheat we will back off of more bread type food for a few days. 3 of us so each can have a 1/3 of pizza. Same for salad. If we have a hankering for a touch of chocolate afterwards I have a homemade chocolate bar recipe that we cut portions from. It's a Dr. Mark Hyman recipe sweetened with dates.
Other meals are comparable. Breakfast can be leftovers from day before or something like a couple eggs, 1/2 avocado, handful of blueberries and clementine. For lunch today I'm looking at the recipe on the back of a package of red lentils. It's a rare total vegetarian meal for us. DH already made some Basmatti rice and it's in the fridge. What I've learned is if rice is cooled and then reheated it is a resistant starch and therefore doesn't feed you but will be food for your good gut buddies.
Portion control is determined by how I feel. The first night of meatballs was so tasty that I "ate just one more". It sent me over the edge of comfort. I had too much food still sitting in my tummy when I was trying to fall asleep. I have to watch the amount of chicken when we have the weekly chicken dinner. I love the dark meat and can eat a leg and a thigh. All dark meat seems to be mine since the others only like the white. If I indulge in the other thigh it will be too much. If I keep my plate to 75% veggie then I'm fine. I can indulge in pouring olive oil over everything. (What the others don't dwell on is that they get the balance of the dark meat in the soup
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It's the fat (good fats), fiber and protein that self-regulate the portions. Fat burns fat. I've heard it for a couple years but now I actually believe it. But don't combine it with a lot of starch (which the body turns to sugar below the neck) or you have fat sugar and that messes with metabolism.