Hitting the "decline" button on incoming cell calls? Rude or Favor?

[PcflEZFlng]

No she really is my best friend. I give her leeway due to all she's been through in the past few years. Husband died, got burned out in the Paradise Camp Fire, had to start all over again in Florida, got evacuated there soon after she moved in. Her intention is good when she puts me on hold for "just a minute" and it doesn't happen every time we talk, but next time I will just suggest she call me back.

Thanks for clarifying with the context. She's been through some rough times for sure.

 

[DeniseM]

Dumb question: Why is the "decline" button showing sometimes, but not all of the time?

 

[heathpack]

My best friend does this to me a lot. Usually her "just a minute" can drag on and on. Okay, the other call, or whoever is at the door, is important. But next time I'm going to tell her to just call me back when she's done.

Lol you are a nice person. Me, I’d just hang up if the “just a minute” was more than a few seconds. She can call me back if she still wants to talk. I’ll pick up the call if I still want to talk!

 

[heathpack]

My father does this to me. It just never fails, I call him and we start talking then the phone clicks and he says "I have another call coming in". I have reminded him that he is *already* on a call. It goes right over his head because he feels the need to respond to the beep immediately. After years of this I just gave up. I rarely call him any more. Just email/text.

My mother tends to call me around 6pm when I am tied up cooking dinner. She’ll ask me if I’m busy and I will say “yes, this is not a good time.” Which she completely disregards and just keeps talking! Rarely about anything specifically time sensitive to that moment, ”just to talk”.

So now I don’t pick up her calls unless I know I’m free “just to talk”. She doesn’t like that, she has commented that she knows I screen her calls. I don’t deny it, but nor do I get into it with her. It wouldn’t change anything.

She, by the way, does not think twice about telling me I’ve called her at a bad time- she has company, or is just heading out, or is involved in a project. No problemo, call me back when you get a chance.

Whatever. Sometimes you just have to manage a situation without attempting to “fix” it.

 

[PigsDad]

Dumb question: Why is the "decline" button showing sometimes, but not all of the time?

Why Your iPhone Doesn't Always Let You Decline Phone Calls | Reader's Digest (rd.com)

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[dougp26364]

I spend a good amount of time on my cell phone for work. When I am talking to a customer and another call comes in I tend to hit the decline button so the call goes straight to voice mail.

My dear teenager, says that is rude. I think I'm doing them a favor so they don't need to sit through all the ringing before it goes to my voice mail.

It wasn't until I did it to a co-worker today (who gave me grief for doing it) that I realized that some people may find it insulting to get sent to VM right away.

So, I ask. If you call someone and they decline your call and send you straight to voice mail, are you insulted?

The way I see it, you have a choice. Be rude to the person you’re currently speaking with or, be perceived as rude to the person calling you.

I was taught it’s rude to interrupt someone, wait your turn. Not only will I decline a call, you’ll get the hand of silence if you attempt to interrupt me while I’m in conversation with someone else, you may get the hand of silence until I’m finished.

Change your voicemail to say, “I’m currently on a call or in a conversation with someone else. I’ll call you back and give you the same attention when I’m finished with my present conversation.” If they don’t understand that, then they’re the rude person, not you.

 

[Quiet Pine]

I’m under no implicit obligation to reply to anything if I chose not to do so.

I've said this for years, and I'm Silent Gen, so that's MANY years. My mantra is: I own the phone, the phone does not own me.

 

[klpca]

I've said this for years, and I'm Silent Gen, so that's MANY years. My mantra is: I own the phone, the phone does not own me.

Me too. Years ago I told someone that *my* phone was for *my* convenience. Even for a text. Remember when texting was a pain because to type the letter C you had to press the key 3 times? Replies had to wait.

Some folks are impatient. In the end, everyone has to wait their turn.

 

[HitchHiker71]

Dumb question: Why is the "decline" button showing sometimes, but not all of the time?

I’ve noticed this same discrepancy as well. I’ve got an Apple Watch so if my phone is locked at the time I receive a call - I will only see the decline/accept option on my Apple Watch. If both devices are unlocked I’ll see the option display on both devices. There may be settings that can control how this works across multiple devices - I just haven’t looked into it.


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