Hip replacement recovery time?

[rapmarks]

hmmm....surprised an 89 yo is getting a knee replacement, but I'm getting surprised about old people stuff every day.

I play bridge with ladies that are 99 and three 91 year olds. They drive and do lots of things

 

[klpca]

If your sister is the Medical POA, why isn't she the one to offer rehab etc? Glad you are reaching out for more insight on how to deal with this. You mention a SW at the facility where your mom lives now...where is that?

I guess as a mom I'm used to going to the doctor with the patient and advocating for them. In my recent accident, first, my son took the lead. Later when my sister was in town, she stepped up - went into the appointment with me, took notes, texted the P/T. She had done all this a few years ago with my mom and was terrific! We both agreed that sick people shouldn't go to the doctor alone. Like you said, when she's not feeling well...no wonder she might be confused. I know I was.

My sister lives out of town. I am realizing that we didn't think this through all the way, lol.

If you knew my mom it would make sense. She is fiercely independent. Sometimes it's fine. Other times, not so much. She refuses to enable location sharing with any of us because she thinks that we'll snoop on her. I have told her that our whole family location shares. I only use it when one of the out of town kids is coming to visit and I want to see how far away they are so I can estimate when they are arriving. The rest of the time I don't even think about it. She sees it as an invasion of privacy, we see it as a tool to figure out where she is when we can't find her.

Case in point: A few years ago (pre-2020), she got dehydrated while taking photos in the desert - by herself. She was able to get herself back to her car but she felt like she was going to pass out while she was driving. She pulled over and hung her arm out of the window. A good Samaritan pulled over and called 911. She went to the hospital in an ambulance. My brother lives 30 min away but she told the ER staff that her kids were "too busy to come to the ER" - absolutely not true. She was discharged after a few hours, checked herself into a hotel for the night, took an uber back to her car, and drove home. She never told any of us for over a year until she slipped up and mentioned the ambulance ride. None of us knew that she went to the desert at all. I am so thankful that someone helped her. She loves this story and thinks that it is funny. So that is the kind of irrational independence that we are dealing with. She has always been this way, but this one was the most dangerous. It is a challenge.

 

[clifffaith]

hmmm....surprised an 89 yo is getting a knee replacement, but I'm getting surprised about old people stuff every day.

My mom will be 90 in January. Her doctors want to do a knee replacement. She has opted to be in pain every day hobbling around with a bone on bone knee joint.

 

[SmithOp]

hmmm....surprised an 89 yo is getting a knee replacement, but I'm getting surprised about old people stuff every day.

I play golf with a 90 yr old that had both knees done, he still walks 18 holes with a push cart.

 

[Elan]

With respect to post surgery rehab, I was not really prescribed anything. When I went in for my post-op consult they looked at the X-ray, looked at the scar and basically said to go on with my life, while understanding that the recovery would have plateaus, ups and downs, etc. I presume that what is recommended post-op is dependent on how active they determine one to be pre-op. Oh, and knees are considerably different than hips when it comes to rehab.

 

[nomoretslt]

Just re-read my post from last night…….my husband had a false positive on his nuclear stress test, not a false negative. We had to schedule surgery that he thankfully ended up not needing….but he was literally five minutes away from getting a catherization. And we now know that we would not go to that hospital by choice. He had the hip surgery elsewhere and it was a very good experience (considering the circumstances).
we live in a very active “older” community and we were able to get input from lots of people that have had shoulders, knees and hips replaced. Very helpful when looking for a surgeon.

 

[Luanne]

Prior to my hip surgery my husband and I both went to a class on what to expect. It was very helpful. One thing we found out was that they put the surgical patients on blood thinners after the surgery. First dose was administered at the surgical center. After that, if you weren't already on blood thinners (which I am) you had to administer it yourself by a shot. First time I've been glad I was already on blood thinners.

Prior to the surgery I was in a lot of pain. My PA scheduled me for a shot, which I had. It wasn't cordisone, I'm not sure what it was. It was supposed to last several months. For me it lasted 2 weeks. After that I told my PA I could not stand the pain for the 3 months I would have to wait until I could have surgery so he prescribed Tramadol. That was a lifesaver. I also discovered post surgery that I am allergic to Oxycodone. I break out in a rash. Kind of funny story. When I first got the rash Steve thought we had bed bugs. He stripped the bed down completely, washed all of the bedding. Discovered it was what they call an "Oxy rash" when the nurse who was coming a couple of times a week looked at it. I guess if I'm going to be allergic to a medication this is a good one to be allergic to.

 

[Elan]

I also got the steroid shot as a first measure, with similar results. Felt great for about 2 weeks and then back to where I was.

 

[Luanne]

I also got the steroid shot as a first measure, with similar results. Felt great for about 2 weeks and then back to where I was.

I am still not sure what kind of shot I got. I had to go some special place to get it. What my PA said was that at least my having the shot we were sure my hip was the issue and needed to be replaced. I mean, I could even tell when the x-ray said bone on bone that I was going to need a replacement.

 

[Snazzylass]

My sister lives out of town. I am realizing that we didn't think this through all the way, lol.

If you knew my mom it would make sense. She is fiercely independent. Sometimes it's fine. Other times, not so much. She refuses to enable location sharing with any of us because she thinks that we'll snoop on her. I have told her that our whole family location shares. I only use it when one of the out of town kids is coming to visit and I want to see how far away they are so I can estimate when they are arriving. The rest of the time I don't even think about it. She sees it as an invasion of privacy, we see it as a tool to figure out where she is when we can't find her.

Case in point: A few years ago (pre-2020), she got dehydrated while taking photos in the desert - by herself. She was able to get herself back to her car but she felt like she was going to pass out while she was driving. She pulled over and hung her arm out of the window. A good Samaritan pulled over and called 911. She went to the hospital in an ambulance. My brother lives 30 min away but she told the ER staff that her kids were "too busy to come to the ER" - absolutely not true. She was discharged after a few hours, checked herself into a hotel for the night, took an uber back to her car, and drove home. She never told any of us for over a year until she slipped up and mentioned the ambulance ride. None of us knew that she went to the desert at all. I am so thankful that someone helped her. She loves this story and thinks that it is funny. So that is the kind of irrational independence that we are dealing with. She has always been this way, but this one was the most dangerous. It is a challenge.

Oh boy! Hang on, it's going to be a bumpy ride!

Hopefully one day you all will be able to sit back and laugh about your independent, adventurous mother.

By the way, I do believe in spying on loved ones. LOL! Yes, let's keep track of one another. A friend sent me a photo of my mom & dad eating at a local eatery. I appreciated that! Her parents are long gone like what is true for so many of my friends.

I share an app with Son1 who lives in CA. He checks in at all the places he goes & I check in for what I'm doing. I can see daily what dog park he went to, etc. My other kids live around the corner from me. They honk their horn when I'm sitting on my front porch and they drive past. I can see into their kitchen window. haha, it's all in good fun.

 

[WinniWoman]

Oh boy! Hang on, it's going to be a bumpy ride!

Hopefully one day you all will be able to sit back and laugh about your independent, adventurous mother.

By the way, I do believe in spying on loved ones. LOL! Yes, let's keep track of one another. A friend sent me a photo of my mom & dad eating at a local eatery. I appreciated that! Her parents are long gone like what is true for so many of my friends.

I share an app with Son1 who lives in CA. He checks in at all the places he goes & I check in for what I'm doing. I can see daily what dog park he went to, etc. My other kids live around the corner from me. They honk their horn when I'm sitting on my front porch and they drive past. I can see into their kitchen window. haha, it's all in good fun.

Our son would never go for something like that. He’s very secretive.

 

[amycurl]

Yes, let’s all look out for each other.


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[Snazzylass]

Our son would never go for something like that. He’s very secretive.

Yeah, I don't know. Every family is different. I've been flying solo since these boys were 4yo & 18 mos (and, believe me, I'm NOT advocating for that!)

For us, it's a game. We check in places we go. Obviously, my check-ins are a bit dull - mostly churches, libraries, some hiking. On the other hand, I enjoy seeing where my Son & DIL check in. They lead a rather glamour life IMO. When we are together, he checks us in. He reads my reviews, too. Once I took him to a favorite place in AZ and my cranky review of a previous visit popped up. Oops! We had a laugh about that!

For 10 years, I did not live in the same state as any family. I like to think my check-ins gave him a bit of comfort that Mom was okay.

And, it's a tech thing. That's his industry. He bought me my first iPhone, but I introduced him to Mac as his first computer (of which he was not a fan at the time) since it was Apple computers I started selling in 1981. Back in the day, we loved to sit side by side and geek it up!