On the Bond movie, which is very good indeed for an action flick, the one torture scene is probably too much for 12 year olds, indeed for many people, as it is essentially a sexual abuse/torture and quasi-rape scene "softened" only because we know that Bond will get free, is tough, and there is a kind of cartoon quality to the violence. But if you have seen the film, imagine the same scene with any other character than Bond in it. The scene surprised me for a Bond movie as to its graphic quality, although the emasculation idea itself I believe goes back to Goldfinger and the laser on the table episode.
How could anyone who hasn't been through years of romance, happy and sad, really appreciate the 40 yr. old Virgin?