joestein
TUG Member
Well, looking back on when my mom had to fight for every dollar of aid that she could get to keep me and my ten siblings - ages one to fourteen - together in our mortgaged home and fed all the while that my dad was hospitalized and then could not work, I'm glad that people who had no clue what it was like to live in those circumstances weren't allowed to come and take away our telephone and the TV.
Actually, my mother was widowed - she had to work for the first time in her life to take care of her kids. But she did what she had to. Eventually she remarried and I came from the new marriage. However, we were fairly poor when I was very young. Though my dad did better once I became a teenager. Living in a tiny apartment with 4 kids and 1 bathroom and an incredibly tiny kitchen/eating area. I slept on a cot in the hallway until I was around 8 or 9. But we all got through and most of us are doing pretty well as adults.
My wife father walked out on her family when she was only 11 and her sister 8. He emptied out all the bank accounts and didn't pay any support. My MIL had a nervous breakdown and stopped eating. My wife started working weekends at the Aquaduct Flea Market. She was chopping onions all day for a food concession. She would come home with burning cuts after getting paid $20/day. However, they needed it. She eventually got some better jobs ending up at an AP dept of local business by the time she was 15. Got her sister a job there when she got old enough. Those jobs funded food and clothing they had. Most of their nutrition came from free school lunch and breakfast. They both turned out to be pretty successful.
I guess it would have been easier to be a victim.