Everything is in your control. You can choose to invite them or not. You can choose to ask them for money or not. I think you're being passive aggressive yet you want people to agree with you that chipping in is good manners. When I had a 18 foot bowrider, I never asked anyone to chip in. It's a luxury item. Asking people to help pay for your luxury item....it's your call. Just don't get upset that other people don't feel like paying for your lifestyle choices.
Yes, of course, I know it's my choice. I've never asked, and probably won't. I don't know if simply soliciting opinions and offering an opinion is being passive aggessive, or not. If so, I'm in good company on this forum since so many posts could also be considered the same. Who cares?
It's interesting how these insignificant posts can result in insults. Frankly, I do find your comment about others paying for my lifestyles choices offensive. It's a caustic unnecessary response with a poor choice of words. Even if they did contribute for gas, that certainly isn't "paying for my lifestyle choices", "it's sharing in my lifestyle choices" which is a bit different. I suppose if someone treated you to a $400 dinner, you wouldn't feel the least bit obligated to reciprocate (asssuming you'd never spend that much on dinner and it's not your lifestyle). That's your choice. I would. The next $400 dinner would be on me whether it fit my lifestyle, or not. If I couldn't afford it, I wouldn't do it again. That's easy.
I've had several 18 foot bowriders. Trust me, the gas consumption isn't even remotely comparable to a twin engine fishing boat. We took people out all the time, all day - the same as you and didn't ask them to share in the cost, and still do. So, what's your point? I've done the same. I'm simply looking for opinions. Things are a little different now with marina gas at $4.75 gallon and 180 gallon gas tanks. Still, I probably won't ask others to share in the cost, whether they can afford to or not. Most of our friends are financially secure. Yes, I think good manners call for some type of reciprocation other than a six pack of beer. We disagree, that's ok. I'm not asking people to agree with me. Disagreement is fine, there is no need for insulting statements like yours. Have a nice day.
Eric, I didn't read your last post. "If someone invites me on a boat, I wouldn't offer to pay half the operating cost. I'd bring beer/wine/food, offer to buy drinks/dinner afterwards. If I was a avid fisher, and we go out on a regular basis, I think we would quickly come to an arrangement as to exactly what my share of the operating cost would be".
There you go...that type of reciprocity would be perfectly acceptable. No disagreement. However, it's ok to disagree if you can be polite.