Frustrated with my other half, I just can’t get him to understand the risks

[chellej]

DS lives in the DFW area. He has been telecommuting for about a week. He called today saying he had to get out DW was driving him crazy and didn't want him to go out at all. Made him take mask & gloves. He was looking for validation that she was overreacting. I have been telling him for several weeks he really needs to be careful. He is in his 30s but completed chemo 12 months ago and still is recovering from the effects of chemo. Told him I AGREE WITH dw 100% , he doesn't see he is in the high risk group but he is. He keeps thinking that it is like the flu...feel bad for a few days and then all is well. I hope I got through to him...he is exactly the group of vulnerable people who could have a really bad outcome.

Of course, it also took me a while to come around that I am over 60 and in that group as well.

 

[Sugarcubesea]

You could use facial tissues or napkins (small, smooth)...
Both of which were nearly wiped out at our grocery.
As a last resort, wet washcloths that you launder each time.

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“Do not call 9-1-1 just because you ran out of toilet paper.
We cannot bring you toilet paper.”
-- Police Department of Newport, Oregon (on Facebook)

I'm hoping I can just find TP...the other stuff I'm good on....

 

[IngridN]

I'm hoping I can just find TP...the other stuff I'm good on....

I just placed an order on Costco online after trying all week without luck. Limit 1 to member. Delivery scheduled for next Wednesday .

 

[VacationForever]

I'm hoping I can just find TP...the other stuff I'm good on....

You may want to post the approximate location of where you are and ask if there are any TUGers who live near you may be able to sell you an extra bag that they have. Just a thought.

 

[VacationForever]

I just placed an order on Costco online after trying all week without luck. Limit 1 to member. Delivery scheduled for next Wednesday .

Thanks for the heads-up! I checked and it is on the website. We don't like Kirkland brand toilet paper - too rough, but we may just order one bag too. Never mind! I just clicked on it and it said Out of Stock. Bummer.

 

[IngridN]

Thanks for the heads-up! I checked and it is on the website. We don't like Kirkland brand toilet paper - too rough, but we may just order one bag too. Never mind! I just clicked on it and it said Out of Stock. Bummer.

Keep trying. I tried every day for the past week and today hit the jackpot! I don't know if this is Costco-wide, but in our area, they are opening an hour early and limiting access to seniors (>60) on Tuesdays and Thursdays starting next Tuesday. They are checking id, unlike a local grocery story who lets anyone in during the 'senior' times. If you arrive early and see the queue at the regular entrance, use the Exit as an entrance. I'll be there next Tuesday for our usual berries, tomatoes and Costco chicken noodle soup and rotis ckn.

 

[VacationForever]

Keep trying. I tried every day for the past week and today hit the jackpot! I don't know if this is Costco-wide, but in our area, they are opening an hour early and limiting access to seniors (>60) on Tuesdays and Thursdays starting next Tuesday. They are checking id, unlike a local grocery story who lets anyone in during the 'senior' times. If you arrive early and see the queue at the regular entrance, use the Exit as an entrance. I'll be there next Tuesday for our usual berries, tomatoes and Costco chicken noodle soup and rotis ckn.

I will keep checking online. We have stopped going to the stores. In fact we are heading out now to get our curbside pickup/delivery at a grocery store.

 

[geekette]

I just placed an order on Costco online after trying all week without luck. Limit 1 to member. Delivery scheduled for next Wednesday .

thank you for this public service announcement!

 

[pedro47]

I am praying Costco is taking care and protecting all their dedicated employees.

 

[Panina]

My other half was supposed to wake me this morning at 5:30 am to go with him to Lowe’s, he didn’t. I woke up at 5:55 and he was gone. I called him 6:15 and he was at Lowe’s, said he didn’t want to wake me. As I am writing this at 8am he just left Home Depot and is on his way to Ace Hardware as he couldn’t find something he needed. So he didn’t keep to his word and each Store he goes to puts both of us at more risk. The only good thing is he went early, as the stores are cleaned overnight. He said on the phone there were few people there.

 

[bluehende]

My other half was supposed to wake me this morning at 5:30 am to go with him to Lowe’s, he didn’t. I woke up at 5:55 and he was gone. I called him 6:15 and he was at Lowe’s, said he didn’t want to wake me. As I am writing this at 8am he just left Home Depot and is on his way to Ace Hardware as he couldn’t find something he needed. So he didn’t keep to his word and each Store he goes to puts both of us at more risk. The only good thing is he went early, as the stores are cleaned overnight. He said on the phone there were few people there.

This is coming from a male (as opposed to what my screen name implies). It seems pretty evident to me that he is ignoring your fears and doing whatever he damn well pleases. Funny how you going with him would have been very inconvenient for him going to 3 stores and somehow it did not happen. It is time to have a very escalated discussion with him for everyone's safety. You will be in my thoughts today.

 

[Panina]

This is coming from a male (as opposed to what my screen name implies). It seems pretty evident to me that he is ignoring your fears and doing whatever he damn well pleases. Funny how you going with him would have been very inconvenient for him going to 3 stores and somehow it did not happen. It is time to have a very escalated discussion with him for everyone's safety. You will be in my thoughts today.

I will talk to him again but realize lots of this is him not being able to cope. Yesterday was the first day he totally stood in, no stores, no walks, no hiking. He maybe slept 3 hours, got back from stores 8:30 and in a half hour lugged many bags of soil to a steep back yard and now digging holes, lots of nervous energy.

He did not stop at a food store so he kept to that. Almost everything is closed around us except groceries, drug stores, hardware and a few take outs. Our number of infected is very low in the area but I realize that means little.

With no where to go I am stuck. I can only hope my next discussion is heard. This was supposed to be the only trip to the hardware stores this week, hopefully it is.

 

[VacationForever]

I will talk to him again but realize lots of this is him not being able to cope. Yesterday was the first day he totally stood in, no stores, no walks, no hiking. He maybe slept 3 hours, got back from stores 8:30 and in a half hour lugged many bags of soil to a steep back yard and now digging holes, lots of nervous energy.

He did not stop at a food store so he kept to that. Almost everything is closed around us except groceries, drug stores, hardware and a few take outs. Our number of infected is very low in the area but I realize that means little.

With no where to go I am stuck. I can only hope my next discussion is heard. This was supposed to be the only trip to the hardware stores this week, hopefully it is.

You both should be able to walk and hike in areas that are not crowded.

 

[TravelTime]

On some threads, people are calling other people selfish if they go out, like the Spring Breakers in Florida. However, maybe we need more compassion as to why people are doing what they are doing. Just like with @Panina’s other half. It is very hard to stay in 24/7. For many people, the virus seems like a distant risk. It is very hard to get everyone to comply with the shelter at home restrictions.

 

[Panina]

You both should be able to walk and hike in areas that are not crowded.

Yes, will have to do more hiking to relieve his nervous energy. He is fast asleep now. He exhausted himself. We talked, It went as good as it could.

 

[Panina]

On some threads, people are calling other people selfish if they go out, like the Spring Breakers in Florida. However, maybe we need more compassion as to why people are doing what they are doing. Just like with @Panina’s other half. It is very hard to stay in 24/7. For many people, the virus seems like a distant risk. It is very hard to get everyone to comply with the shelter at home restrictions.

There is a balance between physical and mental health and keeping yourself and others safe.

This can go on for many weeks and I realized there are times we will need to go to the stores, out for walks/hikes,etc.

Keeping distance is important just in case we are carriers and don’t know it, hygiene too. He put his disposable gloves on entering the stores and put them in the garbage on the way out, washed his hands and changed when he got home.

I have been worried about him going out because he has a 24/7 irregular heartbeat. The specialists say it isn’t due to heart disease, he is the low % that it just happens. Deep down I am afraid that puts him at a higher risk factor. Watching him go out makes me nervous.

You are right, compassion goes a long way.

 

[Miss Marty]

How do you know for sure people are out (shopping)
and spending time with a friend they can talk to
without having to answer to their spouse and/or
family members about the coronavirus outbreak

 

[Panina]

How do you know for sure people are out (shopping)
and not spending time with a friend they can talk to
without having to answer to their spouse and/or
family members about the coronavirus outbreak

I don’t have to worry about that. My other half is a loner. He socializes when I plan it. Sometimes I envy him that he is ok being alone. I crave the company of others.

 

[T_R_Oglodyte]

I will keep checking online. We have stopped going to the stores. In fact we are heading out now to get our curbside pickup/delivery at a grocery store.

following this suggestion, I tried Costco yesterday afternoon. Completely sold out.

I decided to retry this morning, thinking that restocking of supplies might occur overnight. Bingo!!!! Supposed to arrive in 2-5 business days.

 

[rickandcindy23]

So my mother-in-law, Rick's stepmom, who is now almost 92, is insisting on going to her hair appointment today. She goes every Friday. Rick told her to make sure the salon is open first, and they are open. So Rick is going to drive her to her appointment because it snowed, and she cannot drive in the snow. The lady that does her hair is 67, so she is in a high-risk group, and my mother-in-law of course is in an extremely high-risk group. These old ladies that need to get their hair done every week, well it's just a strange thing. My husband will be at risk. Helen also needs groceries, and I told Rick I would just order them, but Helen says she misses going out, so she wants to just go to WalMart. Ridiculous.

 

[Rolltydr]

On some threads, people are calling other people selfish if they go out, like the Spring Breakers in Florida. However, maybe we need more compassion as to why people are doing what they are doing. Just like with @Panina’s other half. It is very hard to stay in 24/7. For many people, the virus seems like a distant risk. It is very hard to get everyone to comply with the shelter at home restrictions.

A large percentage of the people on the beaches are teenagers and college students, many of whom need adult supervision in times like these.


Harry

 

[TravelTime]

A large percentage of the people on the beaches are teenagers and college students, many of whom need adult supervision in times like these.


Harry

So it’s the parents who need to get their sxxx together and get these kids home.

 

[Rolltydr]

Sure. That seems to be working well. Meanwhile, the virus continues to spread exponentially.


Harry

 

[Panina]

following this suggestion, I tried Costco yesterday afternoon. Completely sold out.

I decided to retry this morning, thinking that restocking of supplies might occur overnight. Bingo!!!! Supposed to arrive in 2-5 business days.

I tried this morning too, no luck

 

[T_R_Oglodyte]

A large percentage of the people on the beaches are teenagers and college students, many of whom need adult supervision in times like these.

One important difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits.