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The Secret to Finding Love After 60
Longer lifespans have given older singles the opportunity to have new, long relationships. But they need to first accept that it likely will be different this time around.
www.wsj.com
Finding love is difficult at any age. But for men and women over 60, it requires navigating unique challenges and decisions…
...These days, late love is getting a lot of attention, thanks to “The Golden Bachelor,” an ABC-TV series that follows Gerry Turner, a 72-year-old widower, as he searches for a new wife. The show also features 22 women in their 60s and 70s, all seemingly fit and wrinkle free, who are competing for his heart...
…Nobody said reality TV was anything like reality. But what is real is that there are a lot of older people searching for somebody—a companion at least, a soul mate at best. About 30% of Americans over 50 are single, according to a 2022 Pew Research Center Report, and record numbers of them are pairing up. One in six Americans over 50 has used a dating app, according to Pew.
…Longer lifespans mean that whether they’re widowed or divorced, or have never before been attached, older singles may have years ahead of them for new relationships. What’s more, because of a surge in gray divorces, there’s a larger pool of older singles. Some 38% of divorces today occur among couples over 50, and one in 10 for those over 65,,,
…For many of these people, late love offers the chance for deep happiness as they age—to find a connection they might have once had but lost because of death or divorce, or never found before. But it’s also a chance to do things better, to learn the lessons from a lifetime of past relationships. At this age, they also know what they want and need, far more than when they were young….
…But jumping back into dating also requires a lot of risk-taking and a willingness to tackle difficult questions.
How do older couples fit romance into lives already filled with children, grandchildren, work and old friends? How do they learn about someone else’s history, and share their own? Having weathered divorce or the death of a spouse, can they risk loss again? Can they have love without marriage and will they live apart or together? Do they want to be retired or keep working—and will they accept a partner with a different preference? What about health issues? Are they willing to be one another’s caregivers? And will they share finances or keep them separate?…
….here are seven facets of late love that couples should anticipate—and discuss with potential partners.