The absolute last time I tried to include a family member in our travel plans was a week in Napa Valley. We already had a 2 bedroom condo. And we were renting a car anyway. "All you need to do is fly to SFO or preferably OAK."
The night before we checked in, she called. "I heard it's going to rain in Napa. So I cancelled."
And yup, it rained -- almost every night around 3am. The rest of the day was glorious. It's not like the tasting rooms are dreary places if it's raining. That was the last straw. We're simply done with people's dithering, waffling, ****ing and moaning.
The "I want to visit Hawaii ethically" tourists are all talk and no action. Any they run the full economic spectrum from crunchy-granola backpackers to people who fly in on a private plane. Their idea of "ethically" is renting a house near Lahaina, thus adding to the housing squeeze. And they do all their shopping at mainland markets and eat at places which get 100% of their food from the mainland.
But they're
mindful and ethical about it. They throw a lot of

s and say aloha and mahalo 50 times a day. What they really want is a way to knock back any feelings of guilt.