NO! And see, that's the thing. The most strident voices in response to questions about direct purchases are absolute and unconditional, i.e. "RESCIND NOW, DON'T BE AN IDIOT, ONLY SUCKERS BUY DIRECT, THE USAGE VALUE YOU WANT ISN'T COST-EFFECTIVE, DON'T BUY ANYTHING JUST RENT, IF THEIR LIPS ARE MOVING THEY'RE LYING, BLAHBLAHBLAH!!!" Sometimes it's even plastered in GIANT RED FONT and decorated with every emphasizer available, I guess for those who are exceedingly idiotic?
I have never seen a TUGger who sees certain value in purchasing direct and sharing their knowledge, say anything near that absolute or insulting to those who buy or sell on the external market.
That's the difference, and that's the attitude I would prefer to not see on TUG. EVER.
I followed this thread since its inception, but simply don't see the vitriol that you do. The only reference to sucker was by the OP (and you), and it didn't seem malicious. The OP did not say all direct purchasers are suckers, nor has anyone else in this thread.
I am sure you can find references in other threads that seem to imply this, but I don't recall posts stating that every person who buys direct is a sucker, or that there is no scenario where buying direct is something to do. (But if there are, these are those person's opinions.)
I also don't recall posts where people called a new visitor "an idiot" as you describe. Is it possible your personal passion on the topic is making you think the comments are more negative than they are. That's how I perceive your post.
That being said, I do think that even if all of what you describe occurs every time someone asks if they did the right thing, and they end up rescinding that is
better for them than thinking their purchase is as good a deal as was sold to them vs. resale (if it isn't), and not rescinding.
There's always time for the platonic discussion of the pluses and minuses and make them feel good about purchasing by giving positive examples of the very technical, rare situations where direct buy is good, and maybe they go back and buy again after lengthy research and evaluation of all the facts (vs. what was sold to them.)
Put another way, what's the harm in getting them to rescind when they are questioning their purchase, and (almost always) clearly don't know what they got into? And if one thinks this is the best outcome, shouldn't they shout from the rooftops to accomplish it?
Sorry if you disagree, but that's how I feel.