To my friends I want to let you know my life has taken a new direction

[Panina]

...perhaps you should read from the book of @geekette !

??? Over my head

 

[bbodb1]

??? Over my head

Geekette has been writing about her ongoing efforts to/toward simplification as she is contemplating her next move (possibly to a camp type of area).

How/why/where did you decide to move if not job related?

Dave, best of luck in your new location. Totally agree on getting out of the winter weather, that's our goal too! Will you be changing your TUG name? :D ~Diane Thanks! I'm looking forward to being in a drier, warmer climate. I was stationed at Nellis Air Force Base in Las Vegas for awhile...

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[Bailey#1]

Panina , wishing you the best of everything, you are a genuine good person and in the end things will work out for the better.

 

[Jan M.]

Way, way back in the day with my ex I eventually reached the point that I was willing to see that if I felt like I was alone in the relationship then I might as well be alone. We had been together for seven years and married for five of them. For most people coming to the realization that there is very little for you in the relationship, admitting to yourself that you aren't happy and that isn't going to change often takes months if not longer. We put ourselves through a lot in coming to the decision to end things. Many times we're our own worse enemy because we keep asking ourselves, is it really that bad and do I want to be alone? The idea of being alone is scary to at least some degree for most people. It's very freeing when you reach the point that you're ready to say "If I'm not happy then it's up to me to do something about it and I'm ready to do just that. This is my life and it's time for a new chapter in it."

It sounds like you have things well in hand with all that needs to be done now. I remember having some sad moments in dealing with everything that had to be done. However I hope you're a little excited about seeing what life holds for you as you move on to the next chapter.

Hopefully we will be able to have a TUG get together in January and you can come and meet some of us. You may meet some people you click with and find some timeshare buddies to get together with in your travels.

 

[geekette]

Sending a big hug. No life choices are easy, but it's good to accept what isn't working, take a shot at fixing it, then acknowledging there is no fixing. That's what happened to my marriage. These things can be completely amicable. Ours was. We did DIY divorce, it made no sense to send our money to a lawyer and create animosity. I'm glad that you both realize you previously wanted to be together, and treat each other nicely still. Sometimes, there is no fault, things just don't work.

Pandemic is causing most everyone to re-evaluate what they thought they wanted, what they actually need, etc. I'm so sorry. You know how to live your life, you'll define your next chapter and hopefully find the happiness you deserve.

 

[DrQ]

Virtual hugs. I hope you find the peace and happiness you desire.

 

[CalGalTraveler]

@Panina I know this has been a difficult decision for you. You are impressive and strong and I wish you the best.

 

[clifffaith]

I am so sorry to hear this Panina. What a year, and it's only half over! Best wishes and a big hug.

 

[mjm1]

Panini, I am very sorry this is happening in your life, but wish you the best moving forward.

Best regards.

Mike

 

[Grammarhero]

So sorry.

 

[geekette]

Geekette has been writing about her ongoing efforts to/toward simplification as she is contemplating her next move (possibly to a camp type of area).

Yes, Geekette is divorced and making a move to simplicity. Northwest NC, the beginnings of a big "glamp ground" over 30 ac. Several of us will live there in whatever structures we put up for ourselves and build it out, making guest campsites to rent via AirBnb. Everyone has different hobbies so I expect to learn a lot of things from both the fellow homesteaders, and guests, while working towards monetizing many of my own interests and hobbies.

When you need to get away from it all and laze in the woods, I'll hook you up. I am full-on New Chaptering and can't wait to build my first kit cabin.

My divorce was a while ago, much has changed since then. Same will be true for you. I don't view Change as scary and undesirable, but as an opportunity to Do Something Different. My only goals are peace and happiness.

 

[pedro47]

I just one you to be happy and at peace. You can, and you will survive alone. Please take your time in making decisions. Do not get angry, pick up your Bible and go into a room alone and read it.

Your Tuggers family and I will be here for you.

 

[pedro47]

here is a big hug from me.

 

[VacationForever]

Yes, Geekette is divorced and making a move to simplicity. Northwest NC, the beginnings of a big "glamp ground" over 30 ac. Several of us will live there in whatever structures we put up for ourselves and build it out, making guest campsites to rent via AirBnb. Everyone has different hobbies so I expect to learn a lot of things from both the fellow homesteaders, and guests, while working towards monetizing many of my own interests and hobbies.

When you need to get away from it all and laze in the woods, I'll hook you up. I am full-on New Chaptering and can't wait to build my first kit cabin.

My divorce was a while ago, much has changed since then. Same will be true for you. I don't view Change as scary and undesirable, but as an opportunity to Do Something Different. My only goals are peace and happiness.

I remember reading your post about what you will be doing there, helping to grow food. Will you be selling your current home?

 

[geekette]

I remember reading your post about what you will be doing there, helping to grow food. Will you be selling your current home?

Yes. Will be pocketing decades of home equity. Kit cabins can be very inexpensive, under $5k, so most of my money will stay in my accounts, with plenty of breathing room to put in what I actually need and want.

The farming is a small part of things, tiny right now, but certainly a responsibility my host doesn't much want, so, I'll own it. She likes my cooking and doesn't mind doing dishes, so it works great for both of us.

The space for my Sunrise Coffee Bar is defined, so it will be one of my first build projects. I will keep on sewing and other crafts, hopefully art fairs and so forth will come back, at least outdoors. There is time for everything that I want to make time for. In this old house, it decides what I must make time and money for.

 

[#1 Cowboys Fan]

You hit it. I always said I was brought into his life not for him, as he needs no one, but for his daughters sake. I truly believe that was my purpose. All my life my purpose was for others. Now it is my time.

Panina,

Best wishes---it is YOUR time now............

 

[VacationForever]

The space for my Sunrise Coffee Bar is defined, so it will be one of my first build projects. I will keep on sewing and other crafts, hopefully art fairs and so forth will come back, at least outdoors.

Please do elaborate what is "Sunrise Coffee Bar"? It sounds like an adventure, doing something in a different environment than current.

 

[geekette]

Please do elaborate what is "Sunrise Coffee Bar"? It sounds like an adventure, doing something in a different environment than current.

Sunrise Coffee Bar is a hangout space I envisioned "up the hill" from basecamp. Literally, a place to go to enjoy coffee while the sun comes up. I couldn't see enough of sunrise from basecamp, we needed to be higher up. Do yoga, test an outdoor bean bag chair, laze in a hammock, read the paper, do a puzzle, whatever a person chooses for starting their day. For a guest camper that is the early riser of their party, it's a place to go to get coffee and not have to labor on it themselves, nor disturb the family.

My gut feel is that it will morph into breakfast central. There will be at least a partial actual roof but also a pergola with climbing fragrant flowers. She has a lot of quartz on her land, so one of my latest ideas for it has a quartz path to it and along one side. Assuming one arrives before light, it could help to have a path of whitish stone to follow.

The coffee bar idea hit me and I liked it, and so did she. that's the best part of it - if I can dream it up and it's ok with her, I can build it. I might have put it higher on the hill, but, hey, stay tuned for Sunset Soiree Space ...

Being farmer will give me an advantage in knowing what is harvestable so I do expect to offer a water beverage also that may change daily. Maybe yesterday we had tomato water and today we have peach water and tomorrow is lavender water... some days I might cut up fruit for morning snack. I'm not sure how much kitchen I'll end up putting into it.

 

[geekette]

....It sounds like an adventure, doing something in a different environment than current.

Yes. An incredible adventure awaits me. Where I can do most anything because it's a much different environment, and mostly blank canvas across 30+ acres. I like to be in things at the beginning.

 

[VacationForever]

Sunrise Coffee Bar is a hangout space I envisioned "up the hill" from basecamp. Literally, a place to go to enjoy coffee while the sun comes up. I couldn't see enough of sunrise from basecamp, we needed to be higher up. Do yoga, test an outdoor bean bag chair, laze in a hammock, read the paper, do a puzzle, whatever a person chooses for starting their day. For a guest camper that is the early riser of their party, it's a place to go to get coffee and not have to labor on it themselves, nor disturb the family.

My gut feel is that it will morph into breakfast central. There will be at least a partial actual roof but also a pergola with climbing fragrant flowers. She has a lot of quartz on her land, so one of my latest ideas for it has a quartz path to it and along one side. Assuming one arrives before light, it could help to have a path of whitish stone to follow.

The coffee bar idea hit me and I liked it, and so did she. that's the best part of it - if I can dream it up and it's ok with her, I can build it. I might have put it higher on the hill, but, hey, stay tuned for Sunset Soiree Space ...

Being farmer will give me an advantage in knowing what is harvestable so I do expect to offer a water beverage also that may change daily. Maybe yesterday we had tomato water and today we have peach water and tomorrow is lavender water... some days I might cut up fruit for morning snack. I'm not sure how much kitchen I'll end up putting into it.

Ooooooooooo sounds wonderful! Nothing better than allowing your creativity turn into reality! Exciting!

 

[geekette]

Ooooooooooo sounds wonderful! Nothing better than allowing your creativity turn into reality! Exciting!

Yes, it is Very Exciting. If I get to the point of growing my own coffee beans, I'll be pouring the freshest coffee around. their grove will be Coffee Grounds. lol....

 

[mdurette]

Panina - not knowing you personally, but reading your posts, you have always come across as an independent woman to me. I'm sure you will take on the challenges of the upcoming days/months with a lot of thought. There will be ups and downs, but in the end....I have no doubt that you will end up where you want to be in life.

 

[VacationForever]

@Panina Sorry for hijacking your thread with questions for @geekette .

 

[geekette]

@Panina Sorry for hijacking your thread with questions for @geekette .

Ditto on my long blathery responses.

 

[bbodb1]

@Panina Sorry for hijacking your thread with questions for @geekette .

Well, that was kind of my fault to begin with. I read a lot of similarities with respect to the two of them...