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To my friends I want to let you know my life has taken a new direction

Panina

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As I am writing this I am sitting in my screened patio listening to the birds and finding myself feeling at peace.

I struggled whether to post this as I do not want pity or sadness. I am a person who takes what happens and makes the best of it as I can.

I decided to share as you all have a wealth of knowledge and I want to post other threads to help me get insight to decisions I will make in the future. Those threads will lead to why?

I do not believe in hiding things. It serves no purpose.

My life is taking a new direction. After 10 years with my other half we will be going our separate ways. I have chosen to take the amicable way and he took my lead. With the pandemic we are coexisting in the same house as he looks for a new home. I need to decide what I will do. Lots of options but with the pandemic will take my time. Home inventory is so low that I know we just might be in the same house for awhile.

And for those of you that conclude moving to the 55+ community caused this breakup, it is not the cause. Ultimately if I choose to move and find something prior to him he might stay here.

The hardest part was telling my stepdaughter, heart wrenching. Even at 21 it hit her hard. I hope she will always be part of my life and I will always be there for her, no matter what, if she chooses.

Anyway I always believe life takes you where you need to go. This was a long time in coming. I have been fortunate I was married to a wonderful man for almost 25 years before he passed of a brain aneurysm suddenly. My current relationship had it’s good times. I don’t want to minimize the good but with other factors it just wasn’t enough.

I am fine taking care of myself but in my heart I hope in time to find a friend that becomes more and have a simple uncomplicated relationship with an abundance of love.

Life is good if one looks at the positive possibilities.

And yes, I will continue timesharing.
 

bluehende

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What an unbelievable attitude. You are so strong I feel quite certain you will do great things.
 

GregT

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I admire your courage, your candor and your perspective and I wish you the very best in the next phase of life. I will hope our paths cross when the world normalizes!

My best,

Greg
 

jackio

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Wishing you peace and the best outcome during this time. I admire your positive attitude.
 

GT75

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Panina, so sorry to hear this news but I agree it is best to share. I am only hoping the best for you as we all do.

As a side note. I was thinking of you yesterday as I was giving advice to a new TUG member. I had to give the advice which you always gave, "buy where you want to go". I wanted this person to get all perspectives.
 

missyrcrews

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Right there with you. Divorce is a long, slow process. One day at a time.

And yes...I'm still timesharing, too. He never did like going on vacation. I do. So nice to be able to go and not feel guilty about it. :)

Hang in there, and know that we love you and are pulling for you.
 

elaine

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Panina, so sorry. We are all here for you. I know you really tried these past few months and it sounds like you made a lot of sacrifices for your stepdaughter. I hope that you and she continue to have a close relationship and that it flourishes in the future. Elaine
 

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Always loved the line from an old Boz Skaggs song, "once a story's told, it can't help but grow old," meaning, once you share, it gets easier!

I'm optimistic that you will continue to be close with stepdaughter. It's not uncommon at all! I am still very close with my uncles' first wives. These are the women I grew up with and we have remained friends.

All the best to you!
 

Talent312

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It actually can be quick, but no matter how agreeable, you'll need time to recover.

When I divorced (2000), I left a joint petition with a settlement on the counter.
She signed+filed. I put all I wanted in the back of a pick-up and moved out.
We were given a court date four weeks hence. We had -0- assets to divide.
Afterwards, I went to my Aunt's house in New York... to "get myself together."
I was a mess. BTW, this was 20 years ago, and we've both remarried.

I found that almost everybody has a divorce-story or knows someone who does.
 
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Wishing you the best of everything as you go forward! So glad you shared.
 

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You are both amicable, which says a lot. It helps make the hurt easier to bear. Best wishes, and stay friends with step-d. Everyone needs friends.
 

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Your an amazing person and I respect you so much. Your step-daughter is so fortunate to have you in her life. I’m so glad for you that this is going to be amicable.

Please reach out if there’s anything I can do and please know you’ve always got friend in me.

Much love to you
 
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This is tough, but I am glad to see that you are feeling at peace about the situation. I am just up the road, so if you ever need a socially-distanced, but in-person visit, I will so be there. :)

*big hugs*

The only way out, is through...
 
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rickandcindy23

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So sorry, Panina. How very difficult this must be for both of you. My heart is heavy, thinking of this huge change in your life. God bless you both.
 

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You’re a good, strong person. You will be fine. Not to be a downer person, but make sure you have an attorney that has your best interests front and center. You need to make sure you are financially secure. Cyber hugs.
 

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It sounds like it was a tough decision but happy to hear you are at peace. I admire your positive attitude and I hope you will find a friend to share your life with in the future.
 
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