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DW & I have been married for 41 years. We have matching gold wedding rings. Yesterday, I discovered that the ring fell off of my finger while walking to another room in the house. I am now 35 lb lighter than when married. DW said to get it resized.

I always thought my ring symbolized my commitment to DW. I am thinking that altering the ring is changing the symbolism.

I’m thinking to get a gold chain for around the neck (ring on chain) or around the left wrist.

Your thoughts would be appreciated
 

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It is a personal choice. DW and I have been married 42 years and we both do not wear rings. We both do not like jewelry and I got out of the habit early in our marriage when I worked as an electro-mechanical technician working on machinery. When reaching in tight spaces where you might come across an unforeseen energized component, the difference between a dry hand and metal ring that is moist underneath can be the difference between life and death. An let's not even talk about digit avulsion :sick:

As Kurt said, "Listen to DW"
 

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I think it's a personal thing; although I wouldn't wear a ring on the chain on my wrist. My DH doesn't wear his ring much mostly because he works with his hands . . . only when we're out at social or work events where it wants to honor our marriage by wearing his.
 

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Have worn your ring for 41 years?
If so, I think you should listen to your wife.
 

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I appreciate that you consider the ring should be unaltered, but are you actually the same people as when you married? No, you've grown and changed and lived many memories together. It's not at all a drastic change to resize a ring. I think that this does not at all change the ring in any noticeable way. Consider it further committment, that any old arguments or immaturities are sized right out of your marriage forever.

The finger is the easiest place to keep it. I think the other options would drive you bonkers in short time.
 

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I think that this does not at all change the ring in any noticeable way. Consider it further committment, that any old arguments or immaturities are sized right out of your marriage forever.
I love this! I agree. Think of resizing as continuing to honor your wife thru life's changes.
 

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A few years ago I fell and dislocated my ring finger and the wedding band had to be cut in half to get it off. Due to the cost of fixing it and not to perfection, I decided to get a replacement ring in sterling silver on Amazon for $25. Yeah- you read that right. It is done in the Hawaiian style like the bracelet I bought on my honeymoon in Hawaii. I love it and if anything happens to it no big loss.
 

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DW & I have been married for 41 years. We have matching gold wedding rings. Yesterday, I discovered that the ring fell off of my finger while walking to another room in the house. I am now 35 lb lighter than when married. DW said to get it resized.

I always thought my ring symbolized my commitment to DW. I am thinking that altering the ring is changing the symbolism.

I’m thinking to get a gold chain for around the neck (ring on chain) or around the left wrist.

Your thoughts would be appreciated
I actually lost mine once and had to replace it. Then, I got a little bigger and couldn’t get it on, so I had to get it resized. We were 18 when we got married, and both from poor families, so our first rings were simple bands that cost a total of $175. On our 20th anniversary, we were doing pretty well financially and had good jobs so I bought her a real diamond wedding ring. Those things have happened over the 47 years of our marriage. They didn’t alter our commitment in any way. They allowed us to show our commitment by continuing to wear the rings. But, even when I was unable to wear my ring for brief periods of time, my commitment was still there. That comes from your heart, not from what you wear on your finger. Marriage is hard enough. Don’t sweat the symbolism as long as what really matters, your love for each other, is still visible. I actually only wear my ring when I leave home and my wife only wears hers when going to some kind of social event.

And, congratulations on losing the weight!
 

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They have ring inserts that you might look at. Little half moons of flexible rubber.
 

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I had to have mine stretched last year due to my knuckle getting bigger from playing the trumpet these many decades (holding it caused this). I never even thought about any symbolism, just enjoyed being able to get it off easier. Listen to your wife.
 

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You altered your weight
Go ahead and alter the ring. I also think that there are clips that you can attach to the inside of the ring for sizing. Not sure but seems I’ve seen them

A ring on the wrist would be annoying and on a necklace was something at least in my time that the girls did with their boyfriends class ring
 

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The marriage is about you two. The ring is just an outward symbol to indicate that you are married, and as a sign of your inward commitment to each other. It has nothing to do with you being married so long. That’s on the both of you.

Just as people renew vows later in their lives together, consider this an opportunity to renew your commitment. Get your ring resized.

Dave
 

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It’s the same ring, cuts a pc out and reattach.

My wife’s ring wore out ( very thin) so we had to make the identical ring and put original diamond back in.
Hope we can wear this one out and do it again

Dave
 

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We were married at a young age due to my husband being drafted in 1965. My ring was a set from a jewelry store, but it was not the highest quality diamonds, we bought what we could afford at the time. Fast forward to 25 years later and we were better off financially so for our 25th anniversary I had the ring redesigned with the use of the small diamonds in a z type design. We then added a nice band with a more expensive and brilliant diamond on it. I wear the "anniversary" ring on my ring finger and the redesigned ring on my middle finger. I love them and never take them off. We are now married 54 years.
 

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I'm not sure you'd find a jeweler who's open, but there's
an old adage that applies: A happy wife = a happy life.

My wedding ring recently slipped off my finger and came
to rest in the bottom of the toilet bowl.
Instead of flushing, I went to fetch a wire hanger.
 

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I always wanted a different ring than the one I got when we were married. I bought the original ring in a hurry since my DH was planning to propose to me soon and I knew it. It was a very nice ring but a bit too folksy for my taste. Then I lost a bunch of weight and the ring no longer fit me. We consulted with jewelers and they said it would be hard to re-size. So then I was justified in getting a new ring setting. I moved the original diamond to the new setting so it is still sentimental. I have saved the old setting and will always cherish it.
 

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We will be married 52 years at the end of April 2020. I am forty pounds heavier and she is only ten pounds heavier. I have purchased new wedding ring sets over the years, a little nicer, with larger diamonds than our original bands.

We have renewed our wedding vows twice.

We have our original wedding bands in our jewelry box.

Listen to the one you sleep with nightly and keep them happy is my suggestion.
 

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I'll share with you my solution to a ring that's slightly too large. When I retired, DW gave me a beautiful ring for my right hand that was just slightly too large. It can't be resized. After many years, it came off somewhere and I thought I lost it. A month later I found it in the pocket of my jeans. It had come off when I reached into the pocket and I hadn't noticed. Since my wedding ring is perfectly sized, I decided to wear the retirement ring on my left hand inside the wedding ring. It's now locked in place. You could find another ring and use that to lock your wedding ring.

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