Bad morning. He had removed shoulder strap and was flat on his back, I couldn’t move him and I was close to calling ambulance again.
My daughter and a friend were able to get him up and get strap back on.
My daughter has ordered a hospital bed for us.
I have been attending caregiver virtual meetings and classes. It is very difficult to get someone to move to a care facility. I have found a day care facility in Florida and was going to do that. I am not moving to assisted living with him. That is just a recipe for me to take care of him. also Covid is a big concern in facilities
I haven’t mentioned before but he thinks I gave a boyfriend and go out all the time
I'm terribly sorry and concerned over the situation you both find yourselves in. How are you planning on getting him to Florida? These days flying is difficult enough for able bodied (and minded) people. Airports with few services. Masks required long distances to walk and fewer wheelchair assistants.
Does your state offer medical assistance on getting into facilities? From your description, your husband seems to need both memory care, AND now, physical assistance. You should not be the one to single-handedly, even with what help is available from your children, to provide all his care. A hospital bed may be helpful in keeping him in the bed, and free you up to not have to share the bed with him, allowing better rest for you both.
Dementia is a cruel thing. The demons that plant thoughts in the minds of the affected are REAL to them. In your husbands mind, you are the root of his problems, and if you were just there every time he opens his eyes everything would be OK. This is not likely to change when/if he gets into a care center.
All the best to you and your family.
Jim