Got a phone call from a contractor friend around dinner last night. He was waiting for the coroner to pick up the deceased after the police had left. Cause of death was pretty clear ... drug overdose with the needle & works still there.
The deceased ex-husband had a history which is why they had divoriced several years ago ... he was still under the drug court program ... with weekly testing (which he was passing .. otherwise he would be sitting in jail). My friend just could NOT give up on him ... had told me months ago, he still lite up his life and was drawn to him. He had - while married - stolen a lot of money and possessions forcing him to divoriced this "love".
What concerns me was the part of the conversation where my contractor friend starts saying how "Everyone has left me. My dad & his wife moved to FL (1000 miles), my brother has moved away, and now "he" is gone. I have no one." He had called his mother and stepfather, which is where he was headed after leaving the 'scene' (about 3 miles away). Yes, he was still in the apartment as was "the deceased". Alone.
He will pay for his ex-husband burial costs ... as he still loved him (a feeling he had expressed to me several different times over the past 16 months). The deceased needed a place to be released from jail to live, inspected by PO ... his ex (my friend) reached out to me as I rent out a few apartments. My contractor friend really has NOT moved away emotionally from him ... the deceased was still "the one who lite up his world and whom he still loved deeply." .... (prior expressed sentiments multiple times over the past 16-18 months).
What can I say? Is there a special book I could give him ... that someone here related to or offered comfort to them during a black time? A website for sharing? Esp when he is alone.
The deceased ex-husband had a history which is why they had divoriced several years ago ... he was still under the drug court program ... with weekly testing (which he was passing .. otherwise he would be sitting in jail). My friend just could NOT give up on him ... had told me months ago, he still lite up his life and was drawn to him. He had - while married - stolen a lot of money and possessions forcing him to divoriced this "love".
What concerns me was the part of the conversation where my contractor friend starts saying how "Everyone has left me. My dad & his wife moved to FL (1000 miles), my brother has moved away, and now "he" is gone. I have no one." He had called his mother and stepfather, which is where he was headed after leaving the 'scene' (about 3 miles away). Yes, he was still in the apartment as was "the deceased". Alone.
He will pay for his ex-husband burial costs ... as he still loved him (a feeling he had expressed to me several different times over the past 16 months). The deceased needed a place to be released from jail to live, inspected by PO ... his ex (my friend) reached out to me as I rent out a few apartments. My contractor friend really has NOT moved away emotionally from him ... the deceased was still "the one who lite up his world and whom he still loved deeply." .... (prior expressed sentiments multiple times over the past 16-18 months).
What can I say? Is there a special book I could give him ... that someone here related to or offered comfort to them during a black time? A website for sharing? Esp when he is alone.
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