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Sometimes, simple can be very nice.
When I was last married, on our tenth anniversary of being a couple, we grabbed two best friends, (one of whom was a hairdresser), and flew from Seattle to San Francisco. We picked up the rental car at the airport, drove to the courthouse in SF to pick up the license, and headed for Napa Valley, where we stayed in a beautiful boutique B&B. We met the wedding planner/officiant at a coffee shop in Napa that evening to finalize arrangements. I'd found him on the Internet, and we'd had a number of conversations and emails prior, so there were only a few details remaining.
The next day, we had a total of 8 family members from both sides (from Reno and Fairfield, CA, respectively), join our two friends and us for a private wine tasting at a small winery in the mountains above Napa. After a great midday wine tasting, we 12 plus the officiant and his helper all took a leisurely walk through the grape fields to a Eucalyptus-tree shaded hilltop. We had our simple wedding ceremony there, and followed it up with a catered luncheon at a picnic area there on the hilltop in the winery. The scenery was amazing. The entire event was simple, unforgettable, and a perfect way to be married. Two weeks later, back home here in Washington, we threw a big reception party for our friends and family here. I had ordered custom wine bottle labels with our names and the wedding date on them, and after we soaked off the labels from some nice wine from the store here, we attached our labels to the bottles, and gave them as gifts to our guests. It was a huge hit. We specifically requested no gifts - we already owned a toaster.
The entire thing was pretty inexpensive - counting airfare, the officiant, luncheon, the B&B costs, and the reception party, it was probably less than $3000. Granted, it was intended to be an intimate affair, and it was. I can't imagine a wedding with hundreds of guests, or one costing tens of thousands of dollars. For us, it was perfect, and we wouldn't have changed a thing.
Traditional "church weddings" are amazing to see, but if the couple isn't the church type, it can be an awkward event that leaves everyone wondering what the whole point was. I've been to some of them where people wondered why the couple didn't just elope, and save the expense.
Patri, I completely understand your point about your niece's wedding, but as Denise mentioned, it may be easier to just go along with things, and try to enjoy the day. I hope it did/does go well.
Dave
When I was last married, on our tenth anniversary of being a couple, we grabbed two best friends, (one of whom was a hairdresser), and flew from Seattle to San Francisco. We picked up the rental car at the airport, drove to the courthouse in SF to pick up the license, and headed for Napa Valley, where we stayed in a beautiful boutique B&B. We met the wedding planner/officiant at a coffee shop in Napa that evening to finalize arrangements. I'd found him on the Internet, and we'd had a number of conversations and emails prior, so there were only a few details remaining.
The next day, we had a total of 8 family members from both sides (from Reno and Fairfield, CA, respectively), join our two friends and us for a private wine tasting at a small winery in the mountains above Napa. After a great midday wine tasting, we 12 plus the officiant and his helper all took a leisurely walk through the grape fields to a Eucalyptus-tree shaded hilltop. We had our simple wedding ceremony there, and followed it up with a catered luncheon at a picnic area there on the hilltop in the winery. The scenery was amazing. The entire event was simple, unforgettable, and a perfect way to be married. Two weeks later, back home here in Washington, we threw a big reception party for our friends and family here. I had ordered custom wine bottle labels with our names and the wedding date on them, and after we soaked off the labels from some nice wine from the store here, we attached our labels to the bottles, and gave them as gifts to our guests. It was a huge hit. We specifically requested no gifts - we already owned a toaster.
The entire thing was pretty inexpensive - counting airfare, the officiant, luncheon, the B&B costs, and the reception party, it was probably less than $3000. Granted, it was intended to be an intimate affair, and it was. I can't imagine a wedding with hundreds of guests, or one costing tens of thousands of dollars. For us, it was perfect, and we wouldn't have changed a thing.
Traditional "church weddings" are amazing to see, but if the couple isn't the church type, it can be an awkward event that leaves everyone wondering what the whole point was. I've been to some of them where people wondered why the couple didn't just elope, and save the expense.
Patri, I completely understand your point about your niece's wedding, but as Denise mentioned, it may be easier to just go along with things, and try to enjoy the day. I hope it did/does go well.
Dave
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