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I have committed a horrible crime / Women Wanted!

alanraycole

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I am staying in unit 209 at the Shearwater all by myself! This place is huge... it is a crime to be here alone! Also, for those not familiar with the Shearwater, unit 209 sits right on the edge of the cliff on the top floor with vaulted ceilings. It is angled for a supreme view down the coast towards the lighthouse as well as a view down the coast in the other direction. The side window looks out over the pool. I think this unit might just be the best of the lot. I'll take pics sometime later this week.

I arrived on Kauai tonight. After getting my rental car and driving though Kapaa, daylight dwindled. Because I ran out of daylight so soon after arrival, I figured tonight was as good as any to buy groceries, then I checked in... that's when I realized what a waste this place is to be all just for me. Then I decided it was time to eat. I first checked to see if either of the restaurants at the Hanalei Bay Resort were reopened yet... that would have been my first choice for old times sake. But the guard I talked to said he has heard nothing about when they might reopen. I'll go back later this week to speak to the manager and find out the official word. Then I drove down to Hanalei to pick a place to eat. Kalypso was the pick. It used to be called something else, but I can't remember what. It is the place on the corner in the same block as the Ching Young Village. It was alright, but I probably won't go back... because it was just alright.

Now, why, you may ask, am I all alone on this trip where I'll be at the Shearwater for a week, then the Lawaii for a week, then at the Westin for a week... all in two bedroom condos... all by myself. Because of the half dozen or so people/couples that I have been traveling with for the past few years, none of them have kept a steady job... sometimes through no fault of their own. I was going to be here with two couples this trip, but one person from each couple lost a job in the last few months. Ironically, there are probably a dozen friends who have begged me to take them with me, but they wanted me to buy their plane tickets!

Why am I reporting this here? Because after arriving here at the Shearwater in this huge and gorgeous location, I have decided it is ridiculous that I am here alone and I am taking my battle against being alone to the next level! I have long ago and continue to subscribe to two dating sites that have gotten me nowhere! You may ask, "what about meeting women the old fashined way?" I'll admit to being a workaholic. Granted most of the people I consider friends are employees. All of the people who have begged me to take them with me are employees or former employees. I work at the store seven days a week. Then I come home and work on the store website till I go to bed. Then I get up and do it all again. As some of you may have noticed, I take a few breaks from working on the website to comment now and then on TUG. I also take breaks to play with my three dogs between their napping. I also go on a lot of vacations... sort of. The only way I can justify taking so many vacations is to bring my work along with me. Some of you may have noticed that I consider ocean view rooms very important. That is because I like to sit on the lanai for a couple hours, working during the daylight and like to see and hear the ocean waves while working. After the sun goes down, I am either sleeping or working on the website still more, again hopefully listening to ocean waves like I am right now.

While on vacation, other than a couple of hours of daylight enjoying my lanai view while working, I like to make up for all the worked evenings and weekends of the past year and play hard. OK, maybe I am exagerating... usually I like to go to the beach or hike. During a seven day period I also like to do from 2 to 7 paid adventure activities.

Now, to the point. Aren't there out there some women who would like to drop everything and come on out to Kauai? Women who can pay there own way... since we aren't dating, obviously. Now, I am not talking about coming out here to join me as a couple. I am too conservative for that and, hopefully, the women who would like to come out here are too conservative for that, too. This place and the other places I'll be staying this vacation are plenty big for a group of single women to join me as friends. I say group because I doubt a lone women would have the nerve to join a stranger on the spur of the moment. If you are interested, tell me about yourself and ask any questions you may have. If we both think we are close to compatible, gather some gal pals and come on over. We will have a blast together and see where it takes us.

OK, alternate option... all you women, tell me what I am doing wrong... other than the obvious. Give it to me straight. I can take it... seriously!

I'll post some pics later... just so you can see that I am not a hunk, but not a dog either... at least I don't think I am a dog. But, I am 47.
 
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Happily married here in Iowa, but your post made me laugh and I wish you the best of luck!
 

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Wish I could get there in time!!!!!!!!!

However you will probably get a large number of marriage proposal based on this posting, and many e-mails from Nigeria wanting you to invest:)
 

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I'm married - but sure have some adorable single friends. Too bad we live on the east coast. I think your post is adorable. You're asking advice? Be willing to send a picture. :)
 

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Nice offer! I'm sure you'll find some company hanging around the pool, etc. Perhaps we could set-up a calendar where TUGGERS could post timeshare trips open to share. I've paired-up with other lady TUGGERS for European trips as my hubby doesn't enjoy that type of travel.

Maria
 
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Picture taken this morning.

Someone said I should add a picture. This one was taken this morning off the lanai, with the coast in the background. I'll take some more once there is better sun.

AlanShearwaterCoast_small.jpg


Someone sent me a private message to take a better pic. For now, below are some older ones. I'll take some more later. For larger versions, visit http://cole.bz/dream/ if you dare to look at the larger versions.

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Alan_small.jpg


(Picture taken holding the snake deleted at Denise's request.)
 
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Truly a Picture of the Day if ever there was. :rofl:
 

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This is really fabulous! I think it's a great plan and I hope someone wonderful takes you up on it.
 

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I would ditch the snake picture - it doesn't scream "I'm just your average normal guy." :D
 

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I hope you will find company and keep us informed. ;) Some TUGgers who are there already may want to join you and stay or visit you during the day. This is such a nice resort from what I have read with magnificent views.

Enjoy your vacation and don't work too hard! You only live once. :)
 

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Too bad we didn't know sooner though. There are 4 women from the Ladies on Vacation (LOV) Group heading to Mexico in 2 weeks. I'm sure we would have enjoyed Hawaii.

You're too young for me. You think it's hard finding dates as a 47 yr old male? You should see what it's like as a 61 yr old female!
 
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I can't help you now, but for the longer term, have you considered dating a Filipina? They are amazing people, and the women are great. Just ask Rick (ricoba) if you don't believe me. :)

You can email me if you want more info on Filipina dating sites. There's one in particular that's free and I guess you could say it's the TUG of Filipina dating sites. It's run by an American guy and his Filipina wife. It has forums, chat rooms, and it's highly moderated. They don't tolerate any nonsense there. Stay away from the paid sites. They aren't worth it, and there's other reasons to stay away from them also.

-David
 
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Great idea! A TUG potluck dinner at my place!

Some TUGgers who are there already may want to join you and stay or visit you during the day. This is such a nice resort from what I have read with magnificent views.

To all Tuggers on Kauai now... let's have dinner at my place this weekend. I don't know what my food contribution will be to a potluck dinner, since my cooking is limited to "heat and serve." But, come on over. Dinner is at 5. Which day? You tell me.

I just got back from a day of walking beaches from Ke'e to Haena and then Annini. I might give details later, but now I have to go... I want to sit in the whirlpool for the last minutes of daylight.
 

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I'll try to do better next time.

Geez Alan, those of us who are single and have steady jobs-- we need a little more notice, ya know. ;)

I don't have Hawaii reservations, yet, for another trip, but I'll let everyone know when I do.

I've traveled alone before, and haven't thought much of it. It's just that this place is so huge and has one of the best timeshare views I have ever seen... it is a genuine shame that it is all wasted on just me... so I had to take action.
 
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So tell us about what you've been doing there while waiting for someone to answer your ad! Are you having fun?
 

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Hmm, I'll give you the same advice I give all my single girlfriends...travel with single groups. There are lots of activities around and sponsored for singles with like interest. Also, Volunteer at places that women like to volunteer at. You can also form your own single group of travelers, as one of my friends have, they all travel with each other for times a year, and are encouraged to bring other friends that are not known to the group along. Its worked out well for them for years, and about 50% of them have gotten into serious relationships with people they met on the group. Also, working all the time really limits your choices a lot. Again, find a group, team, or figure out where all the women are...(a lot are in church....that's where my brother met his fiance...he just started going to a nice church in the neighborhood, and was virtually swarmed by single ladies).

Good luck to you, and keep up posted. Us Married people like to live vicariously through our single friends for excitement...but as we get older, we all get tired. :D
 

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No private messages from any ladies, yet!

So tell us about what you've been doing there while waiting for someone to answer your ad! Are you having fun?

So far, I have been ejoying the beaches and walking a whoooooole lot. I was going to make a photo diary of one of my more picturesque hikes along the beach and the jungle, but my phone battery expired. I am sure I'll take that walk again during my stay... this time with a fully charged phone battery for picture taking.

There have been no takers on the potluck dinner either. Are there any other Tuggers on Kauai now?
 

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Ahhhh! :eek: :eek: :eek:

Are you the twin of my ex-bf ????? You LOOK just like him.

Burned all of his pictures years ago. He didn't cook either. And would spend hours on the computer. And developed a real affection for Filipina women during his 5+ years of scuba diving there (including this past November).

But you have excellent tastes in views for your vacationing adventures - he was too cheap for Hawaii and any room above a 1 star rating.

After him, I was happy to vacation alone in 2 bedroom timeshares with great ocean views in South Florida.:D
 

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David -

I will take your comment as a positive reflection on the many (or one) fine women you have known from the RP, as I have truly enjoyed and been informed by your many prior postings on these boards.
 

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What a pity you are still alone in such a beautiful place. The weather looks a little cloudy but the ocean always looks nice no matter what.

LPRST gave you some wonderful suggestions how to find a travel companion or a girlfriend/soulmate for your next trip. Are there no TUGgers on the island right now? This is high season! Where is everybody? I would have come to visit you with my DH, if we were there. :)

Enjoy the rest of your week and plan it better next time! :wave:
 

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Ohhhh, it sounds like a wonderful vacation !!!!

Hello: :)

It sounds like a great vacation -- and I think there would be several gals
who would be interested !!! (I am married, and too old...)

I'm just guessing that many gals would require a bit more advance notice --
most folks need to give several weeks notice to their employers for vacation time. So, your invitation may not work for this particular vacation, but it
could certainly work in the future.

Now I just wanted to go off-track for a moment, but one of my gal friends
had an unfortunate ending to her marriage (her hubby up and left her for
another woman; leaving her to raise 4 kids -- all teenagers.)
Anyhow, after 3 years of putting her teenagers first, she decided it was
time for herself. She turned to Internet dating -- the first 5 men she met were real losers, but the 6th man was a keeper. I think her secret to success was "keep trying -- don't give up" Most women would have given
up sooner -- but she hung in there.

So, I was thinking for someone such as yourself who works so much, the
Internet would be a great way to meet friends.

Also, I did notice that several gals from your place of work (both present
and former employees) had expressed an interest in travel with you. I
would re-consider and give these gals half a chance -- after all, the groundwork has already been covered. In other words, you already know each other
and communicate with each other, and that's half the battle....

And I do think you have taken the first step -- you've been open and honest!!

And be positive -- there are lots of us Tug members who have sisters, girlfriends, and co-workers who are single.... Right now, one of them could
be reading your post and start to make a connection !!!

Good luck, you seem like a great guy, :cheer: :cheer:

Cheers
Patricia
 

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David -

I will take your comment as a positive reflection ...

It was just my attempt at humor. No offense intended.

I've known many fine women from New Jersey when I lived there in the 80s. And of course, all the women on TUG are great too.

-David
 
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