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How Covid complicates even mourning......

mdurette

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My father in law passed yesterday. It was his time, he had been fighting lung disease for a long time, he is at peace now and I am at peace knowing he is no longer struggling.

He entered the hospital in February because he couldn't stabilize his oxygen levels at home.
By mid March, no visitors allowed. His time was limited at this point and he was alone and loved ones couldn't be with him.
He entered a pulmonary rehab facility, still no visitors, nothing allowed from the outside. Not even a greeting card.

He made it home a week ago, he got to be with his wife and daughter (who lives with them). But still nobody else as we could not take the risk of bringing Covid into his house unknowingly. He struggled at home and within a few days EMS had to be called and he went back into the hospital early this week. Again, alone. Hard for him and hard for his loved ones as deep down we knew he would die alone, no visits to say good-bye.

They tested him for Covid- positive result came back Thursday. MIL and SIL are now quarantined for 2 weeks. He died on day 2 of it. There are no hugs for them. Loved ones are left to grieve within their own 4 walls, trying to console each other over the phone calls.

Covid did not take my FIL, his disease did. But, Covid has taken all the comfort of family and friends over the past two months and now even after his passing...….
 

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That is really tragic, and speaks so loudly about how difficult this time has become. As you say, he is now at peace. There is that comfort, at least. When this is done, the family members will have the opportunity to express in person what couldn't be said beforehand. Celebrate his life, and try to remember him for who he was and how he lived, and not how he died.

Dave
 

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Mom died in her sleep in a nursing home a few months before COVID-19. That was a time when Mom was able to enjoy regular family visits from her extended family and our family could have a funeral to honor her and celebrate her life.

We feel so bad for those who are now in hospitals and nursing homes and who are cut off from contact with friends and family. I know having a cell phone helps those who can operate one but many like Mom can not.
 

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Very sorry for your loss. So very sad. May he rest in peace.
 

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Last year my husband's best friend died but because he had to have an autopsy and other extenuating circumstances there was no wake or funeral. He was also cremated.

Today was to be a memorial service in NY at his sisters house as it is his birthday. But due to the virus it now has to be a Zoom meeting.
 

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I'm so very sorry for your loss. It is good that you can find peace in knowing he is no longer suffering. It is just so hard when our loved ones pass and this kind of situation makes it even harder. May you continue to find peace and I pray for the comfort and good health of your family. Sending virtual hugs across the miles.

My father in law passed yesterday. It was his time, he had been fighting lung disease for a long time, he is at peace now and I am at peace knowing he is no longer struggling.

He entered the hospital in February because he couldn't stabilize his oxygen levels at home.
By mid March, no visitors allowed. His time was limited at this point and he was alone and loved ones couldn't be with him.
He entered a pulmonary rehab facility, still no visitors, nothing allowed from the outside. Not even a greeting card.

He made it home a week ago, he got to be with his wife and daughter (who lives with them). But still nobody else as we could not take the risk of bringing Covid into his house unknowingly. He struggled at home and within a few days EMS had to be called and he went back into the hospital early this week. Again, alone. Hard for him and hard for his loved ones as deep down we knew he would die alone, no visits to say good-bye.

They tested him for Covid- positive result came back Thursday. MIL and SIL are now quarantined for 2 weeks. He died on day 2 of it. There are no hugs for them. Loved ones are left to grieve within their own 4 walls, trying to console each other over the phone calls.

Covid did not take my FIL, his disease did. But, Covid has taken all the comfort of family and friends over the past two months and now even after his passing...….
 

Panina

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My father in law passed yesterday. It was his time, he had been fighting lung disease for a long time, he is at peace now and I am at peace knowing he is no longer struggling.

He entered the hospital in February because he couldn't stabilize his oxygen levels at home.
By mid March, no visitors allowed. His time was limited at this point and he was alone and loved ones couldn't be with him.
He entered a pulmonary rehab facility, still no visitors, nothing allowed from the outside. Not even a greeting card.

He made it home a week ago, he got to be with his wife and daughter (who lives with them). But still nobody else as we could not take the risk of bringing Covid into his house unknowingly. He struggled at home and within a few days EMS had to be called and he went back into the hospital early this week. Again, alone. Hard for him and hard for his loved ones as deep down we knew he would die alone, no visits to say good-bye.

They tested him for Covid- positive result came back Thursday. MIL and SIL are now quarantined for 2 weeks. He died on day 2 of it. There are no hugs for them. Loved ones are left to grieve within their own 4 walls, trying to console each other over the phone calls.

Covid did not take my FIL, his disease did. But, Covid has taken all the comfort of family and friends over the past two months and now even after his passing...….
My heart goes out to you and your family in this time of sorrow. Sharing in your sorrow with love and friendship. Please reach out if there is anything I can do.
 

mdurette

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Ya know......it is just not fair that people are dying and grieving alone, all by themselves.

I do accept it for what it is and we are dealing with it, but it simply is not right.
 

Luanne

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I am so sorry for your loss.

I've had two friends now who have lost elderly parents. In both cases they could not be at the service.
 
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