Four or five years ago a big time alcoholic good friend of mine was found passed out on the floor of his home by his wife. He damn near died. His Daughter put him in rehab. He called me about 6 months ago about something very important and during the conversation said he hadn't had a drink since leaving rehab. He apologized for never calling but explained that while in rehab they told him never to talk with any of his old drinking buddies again. He was told "No Exceptions". He said he did what he was told and hasn't had a drink since. He apologized in advance and told me it was unlikely I would ever hear from him again...Please keep him away from his so called drinking buddies & friends. Family needs to listen and not feel sorry for him.
It's amazing how much it affects everything I do, and I didn't ever have an issue with drinking personally. I notice TV shows, where they have a heart-to-heart discussion and make up, and then, "Let's have a drink." It's rampant in our society, and for me, it's nonsense to make it such a huge part of TV and movies.Hopefully he has accepted his disease and realizes it's a daily struggle. I'm glad that he has straightened out.
Our son has been doing well and has been sober for 2.5 years. He kept saying during rehab (3 years ago) that he was going to stop drinking "for now," which was his way of denying his issue. That caused him to slide a bit after he received his PE licensing (passed the test as a sober man who did study for it). I think he decided to celebrate and realized he really is an alcoholic, and we really weren't just exaggerating. So he quit drinking again on his own after a confrontation by a lot of angry family members. We really ganged up on him, kind of an intervention of sorts.
His wife didn't give up on him, and they even had a baby five months ago, a little boy to go with their 5-year-old daughter. So I am very blessed. He cannot believe he slipped after all of that. But I am always wary. You cannot ever be completely comfortable with an alcoholic in the family. He knows his life will be in ruin with another drink.
Sad. I never drank much and then started to drink just in Hawaii. I cannot do that ever again. It's just something I decided was totally optional.
My brother-in-law, my sister's former husband, was like that. He was the nicest guy. He died of Parkinson's recently, about four years ago, and it was very sad. He was military in his younger years, and he was the easiest person to talk to about anything. Highly intelligent, well-spoken, extremely good looking, my grandma always said he looked like Rock Hudson. He lost his driver's license by the age of about 32 because he wouldn't stop driving drunk.My alcoholic son in law was the most personable person I ever met. He never met someone he didn’t like, and they liked him.
My son in law died at age 40, found dead on the street, leaving three wonderful boys who were 3, 6, and 9My brother-in-law, my sister's former husband, was like that. He was the nicest guy. He died of Parkinson's recently, about four years ago, and it was very sad. He was military in his younger years, and he was the easiest person to talk to about anything. Highly intelligent, well-spoken, extremely good looking, my grandma always said he looked like Rock Hudson. He lost his driver's license by the age of about 32 because he wouldn't stop driving drunk.
He nearly killed himself with alcohol, had some issues with his liver and pancreas that had him writhing in pain early in their marriage. My sister divorced him when my niece was about 3, my nephew was about 9, so 26 years ago. Then he got Parkinson's. He thought his shaking was because he needed a drink. His medication for Parkinson's required that he stop drinking completely, but I doubt he quit. He lived in Florida to be near his dad just before his death and was found in a ditch, almost dead. His kids went to see him before he died. They were convinced he was still drinking.
He gave up a good life with a woman who adored him and three wonderful kids (who are weird as a result of this letdown by their dad). So sad. My sister was a wreck during his funeral. I understood it.