Good article on grief

[simpsontruckdriver]

I am still hurting from my wife's death 3.5 years ago. No, not constant like in 2021 (malpractice), but every so often, it bludgeons me. Like on Wednesday, all the heart-felt messages when I mentioned I was donating over $480 in school supplies to the Disney World School Supply Drive in her honor, lead to bawling for over 10 minutes. Needless to say, I had to clean up a puddle next to my feet.

I still have friends who claim I should move on, but this article says it's personal, some move on quicker than others. Grief counseling will help you cope with it, but only time takes away the pain. I went through GC, and it helped me get my mind straight.

TS

 

[rickandcindy23]

Moving on is not the best thing to say for a loss of a spouse, child, parent, sibling, etc. These are important people in our lives. So sorry. I remember reading about your loss.

 

[stmartinfan]

Thank you for sharing that article. The paragraph on anticipatory grief was helpful to explain my recent feelings. My older sister has been in a nursing home for some time and my older brother just moved into one after also having a stroke. I was really hit by his health scare, and I think I am feeling the potential loss of these two that are so dear to me.

 

[simpsontruckdriver]

Thank you for sharing that article. The paragraph on anticipatory grief was helpful to explain my recent feelings. My older sister has been in a nursing home for some time and my older brother just moved into one after also having a stroke. I was really hit by his health scare, and I think I am feeling the potential loss of these two that are so dear to me.

I know a man who lost his wife to cancer, but he remarried a friend of mine a year later. He said that was his reaction, he knew and was able to prepare for her death, which allowed the post-death mourning to be shorter. Other psychiatrists have said that for those of us who lose a spouse, it usually takes half the time that we were married to heal. So, if I was married 11 years, in theory, I should be healed in another 2 years. I also know a widow who is now going out with a great guy, she said that was approximately her timeframe (half of married life = time to heal).

TS

 

[rapmarks]

Well darn, that makes half of 52, and I don’t have that much time left.
i went to a former friends memorial , said hello to her husband and within minutes realized I could not stay.