Perhaps you can call a VC and have them put one of the reservations under the name of a co-owner (who is going) if there is one? Wyndham will modify and do this for no charge.
Yes, that is why I called them - BUT the VC told me that even with overlapping dates they are only subject to possible cancellation if they are AT THE SAME RESORT and have overlapping dates. THEREFOR she told me there was no need to change either of them since they are at different resorts. This gets to the heart of my original question - is she correct in that statement.
Thank you all for your responses - but we seem to be dancing around the intent of my question and not answering it head on.
No dance.. The VC is wrong
heres what it says on the website
If you have more than one (1) unit reserved for the same dates, it is necessary to add a Guest Confirmation to additional units that you, the owner, will not be occupying.
Failing to add a guest at least 15 days prior to the check-in date may result in the reservation being cancelled with the points for that reservation being forfeited in accordance with the cancellation policy.