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Well, here I am- almost 62 years old. In my 13th year and the worst job I have ever had. Finally got to a point where I could coast a little bit and the company gets acquired by a management company.
Not to get into all the gory details, but they stick a guy I have worked with and known here for years in the top mgmt. position. From day one- he blocks me from our friendship on Facebook. He begins to over - exert his authority, I presume to let it be known to me that he is now my boss and he is not going to be pliable in any way, shape or form. Every email he sends to me he CC's the COO of the new company. He uses everything he knows about my opinions of various things related to the job against me. His tone in his phone calls and emails is like a knife sticking into my gut. I get annoyed with him- he writes me up immediately. I have never been written up in my entire life, nor have I ever been fired. He has his "pet" employee in the office with us writing up our conversations. OMG- I can't take it...
I am now more than uncomfortable. He assigns me a task he knows is making me miserable and so very unhappy, with an unrealistic expectation and deadline. He also fires a 55 year old woman who has been there for 14 years- someone he never liked, but has been loyal to the company. He puts one of his "pets" into her position.
I start to get the picture. I decide there is age discrimination involved here. The new company probably wants a high energy, younger person with some of the latest marketing technology ideas. They want someone at their beckon call- ra ra and all that jazz. Wants to work 80 hours a week and no life.
I am convinced he is trying to make me quit or find grounds to fire me.
So- I decide it is time to be proactive when I told him he was harassing me and his back went up and he said he is contacting the owners. I demanded the contact info for the human resource person and spoke to her at length about age discrimination and harassment and also about this man's past- which I won;t get into here but you would not believe it if I told you it is so crazy. Two of the things show his perception regarding my age and also there is a witness I named to it.
Since then, he is being cordial to me at least.
So at this point, the COO has sent an email to us saying she wants to address my work flow and also high tech marketing ideas sometime next week in a meeting.
The past 6 weeks have been hell for me. I find myself crying. I am so unhappy. I had 3 years to go until I could get Medicare and retire- figured I could take SS at 66- but I am just not going to make it.
I was sure they would fire me this week and was actually looking forward to the relief, but it didn't happen.
So- I have contacted a lawyer and am going to have to work on a lengthy questionnaire tomorrow. I do not want to keep my job. I just can't do it anymore and work in this situation knowing what they are trying to do to me. The only point of me getting a lawyer is to maybe get me out of the job with some kind of severance and my PTO days. Someone to do the talking for me as I get emotional and start to cry. I am afraid to try to negotiate a resignation. The other woman that they fired and was there 14 years got 6 weeks severance- but she forgot to ask about PTO days and she mistakenly signed the papers before she thought it through. At least she will also get unemployment. If I am not fired I will not.
I am not sure if I should even continue with this stupid project he has me doing as I want to blow my brains out every day doing it - it is torture for me.
I want to be out by April 1st one way or another. Or at least give notice by then or get fired by then. I haven't slept in weeks and I am in a constant nervous state. I am so done.
Not to get into all the gory details, but they stick a guy I have worked with and known here for years in the top mgmt. position. From day one- he blocks me from our friendship on Facebook. He begins to over - exert his authority, I presume to let it be known to me that he is now my boss and he is not going to be pliable in any way, shape or form. Every email he sends to me he CC's the COO of the new company. He uses everything he knows about my opinions of various things related to the job against me. His tone in his phone calls and emails is like a knife sticking into my gut. I get annoyed with him- he writes me up immediately. I have never been written up in my entire life, nor have I ever been fired. He has his "pet" employee in the office with us writing up our conversations. OMG- I can't take it...
I am now more than uncomfortable. He assigns me a task he knows is making me miserable and so very unhappy, with an unrealistic expectation and deadline. He also fires a 55 year old woman who has been there for 14 years- someone he never liked, but has been loyal to the company. He puts one of his "pets" into her position.
I start to get the picture. I decide there is age discrimination involved here. The new company probably wants a high energy, younger person with some of the latest marketing technology ideas. They want someone at their beckon call- ra ra and all that jazz. Wants to work 80 hours a week and no life.
I am convinced he is trying to make me quit or find grounds to fire me.
So- I decide it is time to be proactive when I told him he was harassing me and his back went up and he said he is contacting the owners. I demanded the contact info for the human resource person and spoke to her at length about age discrimination and harassment and also about this man's past- which I won;t get into here but you would not believe it if I told you it is so crazy. Two of the things show his perception regarding my age and also there is a witness I named to it.
Since then, he is being cordial to me at least.
So at this point, the COO has sent an email to us saying she wants to address my work flow and also high tech marketing ideas sometime next week in a meeting.
The past 6 weeks have been hell for me. I find myself crying. I am so unhappy. I had 3 years to go until I could get Medicare and retire- figured I could take SS at 66- but I am just not going to make it.
I was sure they would fire me this week and was actually looking forward to the relief, but it didn't happen.
So- I have contacted a lawyer and am going to have to work on a lengthy questionnaire tomorrow. I do not want to keep my job. I just can't do it anymore and work in this situation knowing what they are trying to do to me. The only point of me getting a lawyer is to maybe get me out of the job with some kind of severance and my PTO days. Someone to do the talking for me as I get emotional and start to cry. I am afraid to try to negotiate a resignation. The other woman that they fired and was there 14 years got 6 weeks severance- but she forgot to ask about PTO days and she mistakenly signed the papers before she thought it through. At least she will also get unemployment. If I am not fired I will not.
I am not sure if I should even continue with this stupid project he has me doing as I want to blow my brains out every day doing it - it is torture for me.
I want to be out by April 1st one way or another. Or at least give notice by then or get fired by then. I haven't slept in weeks and I am in a constant nervous state. I am so done.
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