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Grandview At Las Vegas
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The 18-Year-Old Is Correct.
It's the Golden Rule.
The person that has the Gold . . . Rules.
When my younger son turned 18, I had a little heart-to-heart conversation with him along the following lines.
"Well, son, now that you're 18 the rules around here are going to be much more strict than they were when you were legally a minor & I was required to take care of you no matter what. Before, there wasn't much I could do if you stayed out too late, spoke disrespectfully to your mother, did not keep your room & your possessions neat & tidy, and so forth. Now that you are no longer a minor in the eyes of society & the law, I am no longer required to tolerate any such undesirable behavior within my own home. I love you & I am glad for you to be part of our household. But the conditions for continuing that, now that you are 18, involve conforming your behavior to our standards. Otherwise, if that is not acceptable to you, then as a young adult, you are free to leave here & go anywhere you want that you can afford & make your own way -- & best of luck to you in all things if you decide to do that, now that you have reached age 18. I hope you will stay in touch."
Yep. She's 18, so she can do whatever she wants -- just so she pays for everything herself & obeys all the rules & regulations & requirements & restrictions of wherever it is that she's living.The 18 year old is currently throwing the "I'm 18 and can do what I want" attitude constantly.
It's the Golden Rule.
The person that has the Gold . . . Rules.
When my younger son turned 18, I had a little heart-to-heart conversation with him along the following lines.
"Well, son, now that you're 18 the rules around here are going to be much more strict than they were when you were legally a minor & I was required to take care of you no matter what. Before, there wasn't much I could do if you stayed out too late, spoke disrespectfully to your mother, did not keep your room & your possessions neat & tidy, and so forth. Now that you are no longer a minor in the eyes of society & the law, I am no longer required to tolerate any such undesirable behavior within my own home. I love you & I am glad for you to be part of our household. But the conditions for continuing that, now that you are 18, involve conforming your behavior to our standards. Otherwise, if that is not acceptable to you, then as a young adult, you are free to leave here & go anywhere you want that you can afford & make your own way -- & best of luck to you in all things if you decide to do that, now that you have reached age 18. I hope you will stay in touch."
-- Alan Cole, McLean (Fairfax County), Virginia, USA.