All this is fine and dandy - more power to y'all - but I'd be curious if the two of you would answer my previous (sort of) question. Having just come from the grocery store, do you tip the cashier, the cart pusher, the counter clerk at the deli? Where does the idea of tipping begin / end? Each of the individuals I just mentioned are also providing you a service aren't they?
Edit: FWIW, let me say that I am asking these questions inquisitively, not from the standpoint that there is a right / wrong here....
I will take your question as an inquisitive one, so please don't get defensive if I try to explain my point of view since you asked an open question.
I think there are some industries where tipping is an established "norm." I live in the Northeast, and everywhere I've lived, I don't know anyone who tips the cashier in our area. I don't know anyone who tips the cart pusher. I don't know anyone who tips the clerk at the deli. Maybe it's different in other areas of the country.
Some service jobs it's kind of up in the air. If someone washes your hair and someone else cuts your hair, you tip both (usually the washer less). If the owner of a salon does your hair, I think tip is optional, but recommended. I tip the mailman $40 every xmas, along with the people who collect my garbage, and the person who brings my bottled water all year. I'm sure some don't. The mailman deals with all my Amazon packages and occasional neighbors parking in front of my mailbox and brings the mail to the door, always with a smile. The garbage collectors have a tough job and if I can say thank you this way once a year, I do. The bottled water guy lugs the heavy bottles up our walkway to our stoop, sometimes in the snow and rain.
Then there are some industries where you ALWAYS tip, that it doesn't even seem to be up for debate. Housekeeping and waitstaff are on that list as far as I'm concerned, and yes, I see the line for "housekeeping" in my itemized MF every year, and no, for me that doesn't justify not leaving a tip.
I don't tip the activities staff or the checkin staff, and have never seen anyone do either. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
The way I see it, I own a timeshare. I can afford to be on vacation. It doesn't hurt me at all to leave a $20/week. We get no mid-week refresh at our home resort. Housekeeping preps the unit before a visit, and that's it. We don't see them again until checkout.
Sometimes my wife, son, and I get two adjoining units just to have more space and we'll leave $40. Even though we strip the beds and put the dirty linens and towels all in one place, we take out the trash, and we put any leftover dirty dishes in the dishwasher and run it, we still tip, and hope that whoever is cleaning up after us gets a pleasant surprise that hopefully there isn't too much work to do in our unit. They have a hard job. I want to make it easier on them so they don't have to clean up our messes. Tipping is our way of saying we appreciate all the hard work you did to make our unit clean, change the sheets for us before we arrived, etc. Really, it's not an imposition, and as I said before, this is one of those industries where everyone just agrees that you tip. It's not really up for debate as far as I can tell.
But of course, I worked in the food industry when I was young and I know how hard people in low-wage jobs work for their pay, and things are getting more expensive all the time.
I think I'll tip $40 a room this year as well since now I know some don't tip. I thought everyone tipped at least *something*.