Mary Ann, consider it the cost of being completely untethered from the yucky ex-employer. You can make it back quickly. Maybe not today, but you can make it back. Plus, you don't quite know when they will execute the order.
minor update to my personal hijack.... boyfriend sends a two-liner email, he's too busy to come see me dance on stage. The stuff he cites as consuming him is stuff he's had on his plate for a couple months. I think I have my answer.
If at this stage of our relationship I rank this low in his life, it's not worth it to me to stick around for more disappointment. This one hurts but in the past year I have gotten used to people disappointing me so another in the trail of dust as I move on.
Ouch, so sorry. There is someone out there that will treat you the way you deserve. When I went back into the dating seen, many of my newer friends had stopped dating because they had enough. I always believed I would find the needle in the haystack. You will find in life what you decide is good for you, just do what is good for you and never give up in your road to your happiness, whatever that is for you.minor update to my personal hijack.... boyfriend sends a two-liner email, he's too busy to come see me dance on stage. The stuff he cites as consuming him is stuff he's had on his plate for a couple months. I think I have my answer.
If at this stage of our relationship I rank this low in his life, it's not worth it to me to stick around for more disappointment. This one hurts but in the past year I have gotten used to people disappointing me so another in the trail of dust as I move on.
Thanks. I am treating this as a lesson learned. It was probably too soon for me to be in any relationship. I am still in the process of reconfiguring my life. I'm not someone that is searching for anyone, I'm alright with going right back to solo. Best to do that before I am in too deep and emotions stronger.
I have bigger problems - no water today and well svc hasn't shown yet. dress rehearsal at 5. dang, did not want a nail-biter today but on I go, trying not to get dirty and plowing through my reserve water, reserving a few gallons for shower (dump water on self in shower). I also stockpile wipes of various kinds, I like to be able to "wash" my hands with something that isn't nasty chemical.
Lucky for me, I make do with whatever. being a free spirit, I can go with the flow. Or lack of it! Primitive living, right when I have to Girl Up! ugh.
I can absolutely wait for the right one if ever I join forces again. No hurry here. Last danged thing I would need here this weekend is someone adding stress vs helping me with stuff. Mom is already coming...! lol
I did call a friend and laid out old red flags, etc., to ask what I wasn't seeing, etc. I don't want to play games or fool myself. Not keen on rules, either. Yikes, I guess there are more ways to sabotage myself than I've done!Sorry to read about your the trail of dust.
I had a friend who put up many barrier walls on relationships post divorce due to cheating spouse . Friend would go after undesirable/unavailable ones and made personal rules why couldn't date someone who was decent and available + interested.
Old house, I'm on an old well, 2 crusty parts quit working. Restored shortly before dress rehearsal. Literally, wrote the check, got in car, left. Whew, at least on show day I have water.Really. I would take this as this guy does not deserve you. What is up with your water?
Old house, I'm on an old well, 2 crusty parts quit working. Restored shortly before dress rehearsal. Literally, wrote the check, got in car, left. Whew, at least on show day I have water.
We will take the lump sum of my husband's small pension when he retires- or what's left of it now with interest rates going up. It's an annuity- like a 10 year plan- less money each month if your have the survivor benefit-whoever dies first- this and that -several options- all kinds of stipulations. No thanks. Give us the money and we will deal with it ourselves. Think we will trust this private company with it? Nope. Just like I don't trust my ex employer with my 401k, with it's high fees.
It's not like we could live on the monthly annuity payout anyway, though certainly it would help when added to SS. This is no government pension- this is a private company one. And- again- they screwed people like my husband- in his case to the tune of like $100,000+.
So-we will roll it over to his own IRA.
We can save or invest whatever he ends up with, take out a little of the money from savings IF we want to- or not. Or- make our own annuity. Some months maybe take out a little- others maybe not take out anything. Our choice- not the insurance company's.
Something happens and we need a chunk of money- we have it to help us.
And if we croak in a few years, at least our son gets what's left, if anything.
And if you live longer? I am one to bet on that. I guess it depends on ones health. Downside guarantee can be an important thing when one does not know how long they will last.
Yes. The weather has been horrible this year. Colors were delayed and no where near as vibrant as usual. Nothing but rain and humidity for months - even in October. Tomorrow we brace for a Noreaster- more rain and wind! Could have more trees down and power outages. Meanwhile tomorrow is my yearly old friends get together and we have 14 people traveling to our home from NYC and Long Island. Will be the first time in 41 years that we have had a storm during this event. Just crazy.
Wow! Good luck to you! I love that quote: "On the other side of your fear is your freedom." OMG! I can so relate.
Not that I don't have a ton of self-help books, but I now have to check out that book as well! We are all on a journey.
WHAT IF....?
"Somehow we learn who we really are and live with that decision"
Eleanor Roosevelt
We have tended to travel in October, even long before becoming timeshare owners, because it is our anniversary month (33 years on the 19th). About 1987 we took an October trip to Virginia and hit at perfect color time. We were driving around admiring the scenery and at one point drove past a stand of something with round leaves planted on both sides of the road. Leaves were bright yellow and there was a slight breeze so leaves were dropping. It was like being inside a gumball machine with bright yellow medallions floating and swirling all around us. It was magical, and right up there in my top five travel memories!
I love it when the timing is perfect. About ten years ago we did a Fall trip (end of September) through Utah's red rock country. While driving Scenic Highway 12 from Bryce Canyon toward Capitol Reef National Park, it took us along the Hogsback, a winding road through the mountains. The aspen trees were in full Fall color, and the wind was just right. We saw leaves flying in all directions, swirling around us, much as you described - a gum ball machine effect. It was a remarkable sight. This is one of the pictures we took that day.
Dave
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In the foreground of your photo I see really round leaves, if Aspens grow in the Shenandoah Valley area I bet that's what we saw.