Thank you. I agree, it's always hard losing a loved one, even a coworker, but it's very hard when it's a sibling. My brother is only 70 years old. Truth be told, he's had a hard life, and has made some poor life choices regarding drug abuse and such, but he's been clean and sober for more than a dozen years. This cancer came as quite a shock to him. Nobody deserves to get such a hard diagnosis when there isn't any recourse.
As I write this, he is on the East Coast, visiting with his son, his only child. They are having time to say their Goodbyes. He'll fly back to California tomorrow with my younger brother, who accompanied him on the trip. He says he plans to stop dialysis after this, but we'll see. He is very tired, and his medications are increasing, but he may not be ready to call and end to his life just yet. We're all prepared, whatever his choice, as long as he doesn't suffer any pain. This is hard enough as it is - he doesn't need to be uncomfortable.
Dave