We are friends with a couple we've known for many years. The wife in that couple mentioned to my wife in passing recently that they re-did their wills, and put us as the guardians for their 3 young children in the event they both died. As context - we have 2 preschool aged children, and they have 3 children of similar ages.
I'm pretty uncomfortable with the whole idea, as parenting 5 kids for a decade or two is much different than parenting 2 kids, in a variety of ways. (Cost, time commitment, ability to get appropriately sized timeshare units...)
They didn't ask us, and if they had I would have politely declined and suggested they ask the husband's sister or wife's parents. Do we bring it up now? It's not very likely to be an issue, but if it is it becomes a pretty big issue. The law here is that we could decline when it comes up and petition a court to appoint someone else. I know a number of their relatives fairly well, and it's very likely that more than one set of relatives would want the children. I actually think that might be why they picked us, so as to avoid picking between their families...
Thoughts and suggestions are most welcome!
I'm pretty uncomfortable with the whole idea, as parenting 5 kids for a decade or two is much different than parenting 2 kids, in a variety of ways. (Cost, time commitment, ability to get appropriately sized timeshare units...)
They didn't ask us, and if they had I would have politely declined and suggested they ask the husband's sister or wife's parents. Do we bring it up now? It's not very likely to be an issue, but if it is it becomes a pretty big issue. The law here is that we could decline when it comes up and petition a court to appoint someone else. I know a number of their relatives fairly well, and it's very likely that more than one set of relatives would want the children. I actually think that might be why they picked us, so as to avoid picking between their families...
Thoughts and suggestions are most welcome!
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