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Bit of background. Our house is large and we are empty nesters. Over the years we have become a temporary "home" to several extended family members (nieces/nephews) and friends of our kids. We usually charge them a nominal amount ($100) just so that when I come home and every light is on in the house, or they take a 45 min shower I don't get mad. $100 is way, way less than market. The shortest stay (one month) was a nephew who bristled at our one rule (no drugs) and the longest stay was about 2 years with another niece. We have been told that we are great roommates, lol. Tuggers will recognize the easy dogsitting for us as a nice perk.
Our latest roomie is my nephew who lived with us for about 5 months before he was deployed on the Roosevelt. He's a different kind of kid than the others - comes home and goes straight to his room and plays video games, doesn't eat with us and actually orders every meal from uber-eats and eats in his room (ugh). Normally I would press for a little more interaction, but since I knew that he was deploying, I figured that he needed his alone time before he was on a ship where alone time wasn't going to happen. He is an introvert (my husband and I are definitely not, lol) so why he chose the Navy is beyond me. But that's a different story.
If everything had gone to plan on the Roosevelt he would be home sometime in July but since the whole covid-19 brouhaha, who knows. I do know that he has been tested three times before they left Guam and he has tested negative every time. (One of the perks of being an introvert I suppose). My husband and I will hopefully be going to Hawaii in late September and I was thinking about the mandatory testing. It's easy enough for us to self quarantine, but assuming that my nephew is back in town, suddenly we won't be able to truly self quarantine before we leave. While I know that he probably won't be out partying all the time, he will be at work during the day and will be going out occasionally.
So what would you do? I guess that I could ask him to stay on the base for the two weeks that we are self quarantining, but short of asking him to make other living arrangements on a permanent basis, I can't think of anything else. Do you think that you can share a home, stay separated, and still prevent getting sick if he were to be exposed? I am just looking for other options. Truth be told, I would feel bad to tell him to live somewhere else but then again I am on immuno-suppressants and my husband also has some risk factors and I am concerned about having him here at all. He can stay for free on the base which I know cramps his style, but having him here during covid frankly makes me uncomfortable. And not that it matters, but we don't charge him since he's in the military. He has an irregular work schedule when he's on the base so he is the one roomie that we can't count on for dogsitting, which is fine. He certainly can't dictate his work schedule to the Navy so we bring in someone else when we travel. I am just looking for some TUG brainstorming here to see if there is another solution that might work better.
Our latest roomie is my nephew who lived with us for about 5 months before he was deployed on the Roosevelt. He's a different kind of kid than the others - comes home and goes straight to his room and plays video games, doesn't eat with us and actually orders every meal from uber-eats and eats in his room (ugh). Normally I would press for a little more interaction, but since I knew that he was deploying, I figured that he needed his alone time before he was on a ship where alone time wasn't going to happen. He is an introvert (my husband and I are definitely not, lol) so why he chose the Navy is beyond me. But that's a different story.
If everything had gone to plan on the Roosevelt he would be home sometime in July but since the whole covid-19 brouhaha, who knows. I do know that he has been tested three times before they left Guam and he has tested negative every time. (One of the perks of being an introvert I suppose). My husband and I will hopefully be going to Hawaii in late September and I was thinking about the mandatory testing. It's easy enough for us to self quarantine, but assuming that my nephew is back in town, suddenly we won't be able to truly self quarantine before we leave. While I know that he probably won't be out partying all the time, he will be at work during the day and will be going out occasionally.
So what would you do? I guess that I could ask him to stay on the base for the two weeks that we are self quarantining, but short of asking him to make other living arrangements on a permanent basis, I can't think of anything else. Do you think that you can share a home, stay separated, and still prevent getting sick if he were to be exposed? I am just looking for other options. Truth be told, I would feel bad to tell him to live somewhere else but then again I am on immuno-suppressants and my husband also has some risk factors and I am concerned about having him here at all. He can stay for free on the base which I know cramps his style, but having him here during covid frankly makes me uncomfortable. And not that it matters, but we don't charge him since he's in the military. He has an irregular work schedule when he's on the base so he is the one roomie that we can't count on for dogsitting, which is fine. He certainly can't dictate his work schedule to the Navy so we bring in someone else when we travel. I am just looking for some TUG brainstorming here to see if there is another solution that might work better.