Yes. I have been on that forum. I do manage our money- do all that- always have. I really wanted a FP's opinion on how to manage withdrawals upon retirement- how/when to take retirement and claim SS, Medicare- like more of a coaching/holistic type thing.
I think that it will be difficult to get good advice on this.
You are a smart cookie, run your own scenarios. Seriously, I fear you would get "professional advice" that pushes you off the course you have identified as best for the two of you in exchange for cookie cutter info. Or, you spend money to find out that you didn't learn anything new.
Perhaps you think you want to go with Plan A, whatever that is, let's say SS asap x 2. Run the numbers out 10-20 years to get any idea.
Do same for Plan B, Plan C, etc. There are a lot of special calculators out there, use what gives you the most flexibility in changing parameters like tax bracket, inflation, etc., so you can test in good and bad economic conditions and pick your best all purpose path. Definitely run one Best Case Scenario, everything better than planned! and also Worst Case Scenario, all estimates are off! Somewhere in the middle will be reality.
I don't think there is One Best Answer, no matter how many planners you end up being able to find. No one has a crystal ball and no one is more interested in your future financial well-being as you are.
I do of course hope you find someone helpful because you want to find them, but I think you have the smarts needed and just want a "yes, this is a good solid plan" confirmation. Nothing wrong with that. I hope you find it and can put crisis of confidence behind you and retire with some certainty that Yes, today I can stop working!
I further hope that SS and Medicare discussions around these parts help you since so many have already travelled this path. At 51, I'm not putting forth any special effort to understand Medicare just yet, and it is clearly more complex than I had originally thought. SS for me is the only fixed payment so I want to push it off as long as possible.
Continued good luck, and good investing!